I’ve tried repeatedly, but I can’t get someone important to come out this year for Christmas. She is depressed and just can’t bring herself to celebrate much if at all. I’ve been trying with repeated calls and texts but to no avail. I’ve left the door open and will probably make another last-minute plea tomorrow, but I doubt it will change.
Very few have gotten by in life without significant losses in life. Those are especially hard to cope with this time of year. The passing of loved ones during this time changes holidays, sometimes for good. But sometimes those losses are so deep that no day or holiday going forward can change the pain.
Losing a child is a pain that I’ve now seen in someone close. It’s a pain that even when that person seems fine, you feel the disturbance, you sense the distress, you feel the unease. When they are suffering the pain spreads an aura around them and encircles those close.
One relative who I was with at a funeral service this week who had also lost a child had to leave funeral services for an Uncle because the pain came rushing back. She was able to rejoin after for a luncheon but I’m sure there have been more times where that might have triggered days more pain and possibly still does.
But like I said, most have had losses, mine have brought me to tears already a few times. Good chance I might shed a few more tomorrow night because I’m missing family.
So if you can spare the time, reach out to someone you know who might be having a difficult time. It might not turn their holiday around. But those few minutes you may spend talking or having a bite or just texting back and forth might give them a few minutes of peace and relief from pain. And if enough of us reach out they might even get a peaceful night’s rest. I know this is the hardest time of year to spare time. But it’s imperative to help those suffering from depression, especially at this time of year.
Be supportive to all not just at holiday time but throughout the year.
Random Thoughts of the Day
- When I hang some Xmas decorations on the tree they cause me to pause and remember.
- I’ve worked many Christmas Eve’s. Tomorrow will be the last.
- A wonderful breakfast is ahead tomorrow.
- I’m feeling at peace for a change this evening.
- I had an old favorite of mine tonight at dinner. A Monte Cristo sandwich.