The daily prompt says – Hit 5,000 steps today and drop your achievement here – we’re cheering you on!
If the daily prompt is going to give me an exercise mission it had better do it the day before because I don’t respond well to marching orders first thing in the morning.
Yes, if I were at the beach I’d be out walking about now but I’m not at the beach and I haven’t had my morning Coke yet. I’ll get my 5,000 steps in today, and probably more if I cut the backyard with the push mower.
Now 10,000 steps in a day is a nice goal. I’ll report tomorrow if I hit that.
Take a walk on the wild side. Photo by Mike Hartley
If you can’t be in the water, it might be a good idea to be out and about early or late in the day. Because the heat furnace is going to crank up to another level today. Dangerous ones if you’re not careful. So please be careful.
Frederick Maryland. Photo by Mike Hartley
I know I’m treading lightly today. I put the top down and went for a ride this morning between 9:30 and 10:30am. It was hot so I’m guessing anything after 12 today will be brutal. I knocked out a few chores outside early. But this afternoon I’m staying in the AC.
Fountains along Carroll Creek. Photo by Mike Hartley
Okay, enough about the weather. Onto more pressing issues. Let’s see what the list holds.
What flavor snowball do we get?
Will I finish reading the book today?
The decision to either venture back out in the heat for lunch or make that grilled chicken wrap.
Will I go out to take some night photos?
I’ve got to decide on a new tractor soon. Good thing it’s so hot out. The grass grows slower if at all.
Challenging myself to get my better half and daughter a great spot to stay when they go away overnight.
Be a good day to thin out some of my old clothes and donate what is in good shape.
Random Thoughts of the Day
It’s time to pay a visit to the local bicycle store and see what I might be interested in. I need another physical hobby.
I have this dreaded feeling that things are going to get very ugly this fall and winter.
Using exercise to keep a better balance in life is a wise move. And in old age balance is important.
Time to call a few old friends.
Setting a new standard for Grifter and Chief.
That was an unexpectedly brutal evening of discomfort.
If there is one consistency in life is that all of us think we’re in better shape than we are.
What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts? – Asks the daily prompt.
This is something I have experience with. And while experience is a good teacher, I’m no expert here. Good old negative thoughts are unavoidable so dealing with them is key to survival. This is a subject that probably keeps shrinks in business. The amount of material written on this topic is immense.
My mom said something very important at a young age when I struggled. She said, “there is always someone that is in a worse position in life or health than me.” So, she taught me to be appreciative of each and every day and things in your life.
So why do we struggle throughout our entire lives with this? In some way it might be a survival instinct. You know the old hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
I’ve learned to use negative thoughts to inspire me to action. As example I got disgusted with myself for being overweight a while back and use that as daily motivation to keep it in control and be at or very close to a very healthy weight.
The political situation has spurred lots of negative thoughts. A situation largely out of our control. But I vote every chance I get. I’ve started to get involved in rallies. I’m making my voice heard. Still, anytime I turn on the news I’m disgusted, depressed, angry and the negativity comes creeping in. Sometimes I have to stop listening as much. Not disconnecting or giving up, just catching a breath to reengage.
You can share your negative thoughts but be careful not to make life about that. Or even the whole conversation. Negativity is not an attractive trait.
Lots of times I’ll try to find humor in negative situations. It does several things. Sometimes it helps put things in perspective. Sometimes just to lighten the mood.
Just moving on from negative situations or people is a positive step and a needed one sometimes.
Sometimes you endure and outlast a negative situation. I’ve done that on the job several times because I’ve liked the people I worked with and the place I worked, and I wasn’t going to let some glorified in his own mind prick going to ruin it for me, so the battle was on.
When I read this prompt today the first thought that came to mind was the movie Kelly’s Heroes. An old WWII classic with many stars. Donald Southerland plays a tank commander called Oddball. He’s speaking to his mechanic, and they are arguing about the tank being broke in the middle of a war. And the following was uttered.
Oddball: Why don’t you knock it off with them negative waves? Why don’t you dig how beautiful it is out here? Why don’t you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?
Choose to be something before you get too old. And while it’s never too late as I’m hoping to prove, it’s wiser to get an earlier start than I chose to.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Choose to make wise choices in life. Sometimes it’s the harder path. Take it.
Choose to love. Yes, it’s painful. It’s also the best.
Choose to take a chance. You will regret it if you don’t.
Choose to be there for people. You will have their respect.
The Dog Days of Summer are coming for us this week. Mowing will not be pleasant. I’ll have to get an early start on that activity to avoid the hottest parts of the day.
We will eat you from the ankles down. Photo by Mike Hartley
One or two things happened. Then again, it could be a combination of both. Heat never bothered me till last year and again this year. I grew up outside. And when inside either home or at work the early years there was no air conditioning.
Summer has always been my favorite season. I remember my family looking out for me at the beach. I’d be out early making sand sculptures (not the best ones) as the sun came up and they would be calling me from the balcony at the end of the day to come in and get ready for dinner or when the shadow of the building would overcome the beach.
I think this was my first one for the kids.
I could power through most any heat. Just a few years ago I remember riding around with the top down when it was over 100 degrees. Or mowing the lower back with the push mower and having energy left. Last year I had to start taking breaks during the hottest days for the first time. Now I’m even having problems working in the hottest part of the day.
So, either it’s gotten hotter than it used to be or I’m older and can’t tolerate it as it did for decades. Or the combination of the two so I’m going to have to adapt. We already have an excessive heat watch out today so let me get outside now before the real heat hits.
One thing it won’t stop me from doing is a late-night ride on a hot summer night.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I still get goosebumps listening to some of the old CSNY and the live shows they did.
Sitting here wondering if that is what is missing today. Music with some revolution to it.
I’m so disappointed in myself for not making it to the beach this month.
If we all knew each other better, the world would be a more peaceful place. Your neighbors extend beyond your own street.
The daily prompt asks – What do you love now that you hated when you were younger?
I hated working in the yard and gardens when I was younger. Especially mowing because I had bad allergies when I was young. I outgrew them thankfully and enjoy cutting the yard now. My better half is the gardener, but I pull a ton of weeds throughout the year and kill many others.
I take pride in my yard looking good. It’s far from perfect but it’s well kept.
Yeah, I thought that was a strange one also. But it’s the first thing that came to mind.
I don’t mind being alone now. When I was younger, I was always with people.
Alone with nature is nice now. Photo by Mike Hartley
I like the phrase “I reckon so” from the movie The Outlaw Josey Wales. It’s a phrase I say to myself a bit to help accept some situations.
Life is about outlook. And life is hard so having that positive outlook is challenging at many points. Personally, I just have to keep my eye on the goal of being happy.
And today I’m accomplishing that by picking up my hobbies again. Yardwork, dog sitting and foundation sealing have had me occupied the last few days, but we are almost caught up there.
A lot of people might not want to dine outside later this week.
In St Michaels MD. Photo by Mike Hartley
Then again, this week may be too hot for some of you. Not for this kid. I like it and yes that 100+ will be uncomfortable but it won’t keep me from being out and about. This shot also got me thinking about having a meal outside. I haven’t been to LeeLynn’s with my better half in a while and I’ve always liked their food and service.
I’ll move the workbench outside and will do some woodwork after getting a haircut in the morning. I’ll make sure the camera batteries are charged and hopefully sit down at the easel for a bit.
Beauty by nature. Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
It always feels good to have a more productive week than the previous week. I just have to keep building on that.
I’m having beach withdraw. I’ve got to solve that soon.
The definition of spotty showers was this past weekend.
There are two goals I have for today and they seem in conflict. I’d like to do a lot of shooting, and I’d like to spend some time in my hammock.
What’s a time you followed your gut, and it turned out to be exactly right? – An interesting ask from the daily prompt.
Wow, nothing jumped immediately to mind on this question. Then again, the 5am hour is a bit early to be contemplating life’s choice. I’m not sure I’ve gotten something, exactly right ever. My gut has made a lot of good decisions, but each new path lays more choices and tests.
I’ve gone with my gut a lot of times. It served me well professionally and even when it didn’t go exactly right, I was glad I stuck with the path I chose.
Several friends throughout my career have told me that I could earn more elsewhere. And I’m sure they were right. My gut said are you happy with what you do and who you do it for and I said yes so I stayed at a few jobs for decades. That was the right choice for me and being retired I think it was right for me and I’m happy with it.
Okay, here is a simple one that came to mind. 10 years ago, it was time for a new vehicle. Instead of going with the muscle car, which was my first thought and choice, I test drove a Miata and bought one that day. I love to drive and that thing is the most fun I’ve had in any car I’ve driven. As the phrase goes “Miata is always the answer.”
A legal go-cart for the road. One unique thing I’ve found is that its interest and appeal span all generations. At our club meetings we have youngsters, teens and early twenties to us old fossils in the 60s and 70s. All with that common love of the feel of driving that car.
Yes, it’s 10 years old and the top doesn’t go down as easily as it once did. There are a few paint chips in the front. But otherwise, she is clean and running well so I hope to get another decade out of her.
Early yesterday morning I stepped out and saw a fawn along the tree line in the lower backyard. Quickly stepping back inside for the camera.
Photo by Mike Hartley
I thought that was odd because there is usually a pair grazing and playing in the open space with mom nearby. No mom, no second fawn.
As I stood silently while this one ate, maybe 100 ft from me, something caught my other eye.
Photo by Mike Hartley
That something else was the second fawn just below, maybe 10 feet from me. The hill in my backyard drops off fast.
Photo by Mike Hartley
I had time to raise the camera slightly and clicked this frame before I got it to my eye, so I didn’t have time to change focus. She ran down to join the sibling.
Photo by Mike Hartley
They stood at the woods and looked till I heard an odd sound from the woods which they ran to immediately. Bet mom was watching all the time.
Emperor Palpatine has announced open elections for new Emperor – and he’s nominated Darth Vader. You get to nominate one challenger.
And I used to say there were no dumb questions.
Okay, I’ll nominate Jake and Elwood Blues. Black suits vs black robe. Hat’s vs Helmet. 1974 Dodge Monico former police car vs the Death Star. Stormtrooper’s vs the badest Blues Band in the world.
“It’s 106 miles to Chicago, we got a full tank of gas, half a pack of cigarettes, it’s dark… and we’re wearing sunglasses. Hit it.”
And when I have James Brown on my side from the Triple Rock church shining the light on us, I think we’re a shoe in.
Being the old Blues Mobile was destroyed I found them a new one to do battle with the Death Star.
A rather wet day ahead so I’ll be ducking and dodging raindrops if we choose to leave our humble abode. While this spot missed the overnight rains that won’t be the case after daylight. Notice I didn’t say sunrise because I was just outside and that cloud deck isn’t going to present one.
Dancing in the rain makes me think of an old movie my mom loved called Singing in the Rain and the dance scene with Gene Kelly. Sorry, showing my age again. Anyway, it got me thinking that I don’t have that many foul weather shots and maybe I should get out and see what I can capture with the camera.
I’ll have to see if I can top this as my favorite rain shot.
Sunflowers in rain. Photo by Mike Hartley
I’ve got to start to develop a different attitude about rain. It usually depresses me a bit. Takes away my motivation to get outside. For some reason, I always feel stiff on rainy days.
It’s just starting to drizzle here now. I stepped out for a few minutes. That drizzle quickly turned into some steady rain.
Splish Splash. Photo by Mike Hartley
So, I took a few seconds to capture 2 new rain shots before retreating inside.
The kids love riding in this. Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
Dogs have the eyes of young children when they want something.
The lies have always been a sad joke. Just more people are waking up to that now.
One thing this country has always been good at is responding to disasters. The earthquakes in South America need our help. I just have to figure out which organization I’m donating to.
A new frozen treat. Snoopsicles are ROLLING out to Costco’s soon.
What’s something you used to believe as a kid that seems ridiculous now? – An interesting ask from the daily writing prompt.
At a very young age I used to believe that everything was going to be okay. At a very young age I found out that everything wasn’t going to be okay.
I grew up in an era where most of the major league sports players usually played their careers with the same team. I don’t know how kids now get attached to their local team when the pieces change so much each year.
I used to think that leaders and sports stars were somehow all people with great character. There all just as flawed as the rest of us.
I believed I could become an artist someday. It does seem ridiculous today because I gave up on it for so many decades. But maybe, just maybe if I’m given some more time here, I might make that belief as a kid come around.
It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown. Photo by Mike Hartley
Life goes by way too fast. Don’t reflect with regret. Reflect on memories.
Photo by Mike Hartley
No time like the present to get going on making some more memories. I would have liked to gotten out for a cruise but that wasn’t in the cards today. Prep for the coming rains and some cleanup from yesterday’s efforts and work. Plus, we are busy babysitting a 4-legged baby. Well, my better half is the favorite, so she gets the lion’s share of the work.
I could so easily be in a situation of regret. I’ve seen a couple of friends expressing regret about choices they’ve made or haven’t that have cost them dearly. Of course, we all have regrets. It’s part of life, every decision isn’t correct. Lots of them aren’t.
What constitutes good memories that take the place of those regrets. Family, work accomplishments, doing for others, fun times.
I’m puzzled by what some look to as a good memory. I went to Vegas once for a work/trade convention. It was around our 5th anniversary, so I stayed, and my better half joined me. Haven’t been back since. Oh, I’m sure it’s bigger, brighter and better. But I don’t need to be there for a good memory. I can double or triple memories on the same money someplace else and be much happier.
I’m not saying don’t go to Vegas and enjoy it if that’s your fun town. It is for lots. But its appeal is waning I feel.
For me it’s the little things. When my daughter holds my hand and gives it a squeeze. When I think, my son is going to shake my hand, and he gives me a firm hug. Sitting around the firepit with friends after a day of eating and drinking together listening to the waves hit the shore.
Maybe an overnight trip with my better half. Or a solo day trip to the beach and back. 6 hrs. in the car but worth every second. I have memories of the clouds moving across the sky as I laid in the hammock after cutting the yard. Or stopping at the snowball stand on a 95-degree day and I’ve been out cruising with the top down and those first bites and then brain freeze as I devour it.
Sometimes I think money is a curse. I’ve seen a lot of cases where people’s lives aren’t enhanced by riches. Or maybe it’s just the way my mom raised me to be appreciative of everything that comes your way. Especially simple things. A meal, a garden, helping others.
That last one (helping others) I really need to spend more time working on.
Well, I’ve rambled on too long when I just found a photo of a reflection I liked and went with it. Plus, a great guitar riff just came on and I have to windmill.
Not all snakes are in the grass. Not all black snakes remain black when they crawl beside a red car on a sunny day.
Onto more pleasant things. The ride I took before sunset last night was beautiful. Local traffic wasn’t bad and I just cruised leisurely. Some teams were still on the fields at Wallace Park. Some people on porches watching the end of their day.
A few other convertibles appreciating the opportunity to have the top down. Businesses starting to close up shop. The night shift beginning for the crews working on the tunnel project for Ellicott City flood prevention.
Still a lot of good things in this area. And I hope there are still a lot of good people. I was disappointed with one statistic on voting recently in the county. I believe it was the percentage of eligible democratic votes in this primary election was less than the previous mid-term primary. Personally, seeing declining numbers before a general election isn’t what I had hoped for.
Come on people, it’s so friggen easy. Get a mail in ballot if you’re working and it’s not convenient. The only way to make things better is if we are all working on it.
Random Thoughts of the Day
The feeling I have is that the Supreme Court isn’t so Supreme anymore.
Rain is like the other side of the coin.
4 years old is a wonderful age for children.
Close to The Edge isn’t just an album by Yes.
I would think we would want to learn about prescription drugs from our doctors if we need them, not from commercials.
The daily prompt wants to know – What’s a piece of media (book, movie, song) that changed how you see the world?
When I was young there was a lot of music talking about the chaos in the country. CSNY (Crosby Stills Nash and Young) was one of them that reached me. I was maybe 12 when I started listening to what was classified as counterculture music. The kind your parents came in and said what the hell is that.
Many songs from the late 60s and early 70s were ones that inspired emotions, gave messages that made you think, challenged norms. I know I felt changed by much of it. Like the song title from the group Ten Years After “I’d Love To Change The World”
Comment – This is a very important question moving forward. Media can influence how we see the world. And that has never been more obvious than the current times.
I’m not encouraging you to dump getting information because you fear it’s all tainted. It’s always had a slant one way or another depending on your views. BUT in all that information is the truth. You have to dig, you have to question, you have to read and investigate. You have to find trusted sources but also check them from time to time.
And then Teach Your Children as CSNY said. Teach them to love and look for truth.
Looks like someone might be playing a little beach autocross at night. There certainly are enough cans and chairs. I’ll use this opportunity to commend the guys up all night cleaning the Ocean City Beaches. Keeping them pristine each year.
Ocean City Maryland. Photo by Mike Hartley
It’s going to be an interesting day. Visits from the children and grandchildren. Might go out to dinner. Definitely taking a ride today.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I’m disgusted with our throw away society. I’m going to start teaching my grandchildren differently. And I’m going to find ways to cut down on my own.
Best joke I saw today. MAGA – Making Algae Grow Again.
There are songs that when played I just stop and listen or play along. Those songs are the ones that raise the hair on my neck.
The daily prompt with a question I’m totally disinterested in. – If you could change the ending of any book, which one would it be.
I don’t have an answer to this question. But I am interested in writing a book. I’ve started a few and haven’t made a ton of progress but each day I’m plugging away. I have trouble imagining the ending right now. As time changes and life change the ending my change.
Because those are the things that I’m writing about. Life, time and what we do with it. Writing is easy. Editing is another thing. I’m learning I just need to write first and edit later. I get caught up in mixing the two together too often.
I don’t even want to think about an ending now because the journey is still going on and that is the enjoyable part of the process. The end/finish line is the sense of accomplishment. But the writing up to that ending is what makes that special.
A good book on a nice day on patio of Whole Foods building. Photo by Mike Hartley
It’s hump day for those working away. That midpoint that inspires hope. Maybe thoughts of making it an early weekend after Thursday have come to mind. Those meetings today don’t seem as important as the weekend weather forecast.
I guess I shouldn’t have noted that it’s Hump Day because I went out to mow my yard and the mowing deck belt broke as soon as I engaged the blades. So, I push cut for hours today. And when I say push, I mean push. I don’t have one of those self-propelled jobs.
And there are now a few more things on the to-do list. That tractor is so old I haven’t been able to find any YouTube videos on how to replace the belt. It’s at least 27 years old and as one of my best friends reminded me, I usually keep things like that till I kill it. And a belt isn’t a killer but getting someone else to do it because this almost 70-year-old body isn’t good on the ground under tractors anymore. Yes, I can do it. Yes, I could pay for it to be done. Yes, it isn’t dead. But is it smart money spent or the time and effort?
I’m beginning to think it might be time to replace it. Plus, that will give me time to fix the old one when I can get my sons help and give it to him when he gets a home with a bigger yard. Push cutting the whole lawn this size in the coming heat won’t be smart and I won’t do it.
Onto more pleasant things. Like nature which I’ve been enjoying being outside today. Let’s see, some baby snakes, many varieties of birds. Oh, and my favorite hawk buzzed the backyard. This morning was a mother deer with her fawn again. Another newborn couldn’t have been more than a day or two old. And now just after some dinner I see our woodchuck grazing in the backyard.
I couldn’t tell you all the different smaller winged objects I saw buzzing around me today. It was nice to be out, even though it was working.
In looking this guy up, I learned there are 25 types of blue dragonflies. I’m no expert so when it wasn’t a choice of two or three, I folded. Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
Making prints for my grandchildren is a labor of love, I do have to finish it up before they get here tomorrow.
These are the beautiful mid-Atlantic days of summer. Low to mid-80s, mild humidity a breeze and sun with just the occasional cloud.
I hear my car saying let’s go for a ride tonight. And I might just listen to it and put the top down.
You will have to excuse me for a bit. I have to go wash off a day’s worth of work. More madness to come later.
Monday was a very special day in my life. It was a simple day, a short trip to an amusement park. A few raindrops and some lines, but otherwise it was one of the best days.
We got to spend it with our children and grandchildren and one of their friends and children. A day at Hershey Park Pa. that came off perfectly. We went with THREE – 1-year olds, TWO 4-year-olds and a 7-year-old.
Spending a day making little and big kids smile is the definition of satisfaction. I’m beat, but a wonderful kind of beat. I’m even a little sore but I’m sitting here smiling ear to ear.
Times like this are hard for me to describe. It’s such a simple thing but at the same time so important in my memory book. Kids held my hand, wanted me to carry them, wanted to go on rides with me, played with my beard, got hugs for winning them prizes, pushed some in stroller, shared my lunch. I almost smuggled a sip of Mug Root Beer to my grandson, but my son caught me and said no. We got gifts and kept them dry when it rained.
It was a blast making stupid faces, playing peek-a-boo with them, tickling them, and watching all the strollers so the entire family could ride together as I waved to them on each circle of the merry-go-round. I danced with them when the band came by and gave the older grandchildren high fives each time they finished a ride. I helped them hold their bag while they picked what candies they wanted from the bins.
I just realized that I spent the entire day making others smile and I couldn’t be happier myself. I was so busy I didn’t even have one piece of candy the whole day I was in chocolate town. I did have two small Krackle bite size bars when I got home.
It was over a 14-hour day for us, and we slept like we missed a night’s sleep the night before.
I must admit I was a little apprehensive of how the day would go with all those young ones. Plus, the weather forecast couldn’t have been worse (rain all day and thunderstorms that never materialized). But it couldn’t have been better day.
We’d taken our children there decades ago. The park certainly has grown. It’s a park we will go back to with the children again and hopefully put some more files in the mind that I can recall as my time here fades.
I’m breaking one of the rules I have. I don’t normally run pictures of myself or family. But I was so touched by the children’s smiles and love and my own children having a great day with us and them that I’m sharing 2 of myself holding both my granddaughter’s hands that my family sent me last night.
We got to the park as they were opening.
I can’t believe how much this 1-year-old wanted to walk. Most of the time with just one of us holding on or on her own.
This one really likes my beard. She ran her hands through it as I held and walked with her.
What’s the best advice you’d give someone younger than you? – A dangerous question from the daily prompt.
Advice can be dangerous. Good advice is priceless. I’ve given a bit of advice to young people over time. I’ve worked with a lot of young people and I’ve enjoyed it. Yes, I was frustrated at times but the energy and new looks they can bring inspired me during my career.
Given the fact that most people are younger than me this is what I do most days. You’d think I’d be an expert by now. But I’m not.
So, I’ll keep it simple young people –
Never give up hope, believe in yourself, find a passion, work hard at it and love a lot.
Now here is some advice, on advice.
Lots of people will give advice far beyond their reach.
All advice comes from someone else’s perspective. That necessarily isn’t bad, but it might not be the best path for you.
Consider the source of the advice.
A lot of advice is best displayed by examples.
If you’re giving advice to someone important to you and it isn’t received the first try, please try to find another way to impart the important information.
Giving advice is a lot about the proper timing for the advice.
People will give advice that was good in their day and may not apply to current times. And that isn’t intentionally bad advice, it’s just what worked for them in their time.
Most of the time people giving advice have good intentions, but there are a few people in this world that will give bad advice intentionally. We’ll let me correct that. There are a lot of bad people in this world who will give you bad advice, but thankfully there are still more good people. But this should be a word of caution on accepting all advice.
I’ve listened to great advice and horrible advice. Don’t beat yourself up over the bad advice and learn from it. And don’t get too cocky over the good advice, remember that came from someone else and you just used it.
The daily prompt asks – Who are you most inspired by?
That is a hard question to answer because there have been different people at different times in my life. My mom inspired me early on. Various co-workers and managers have inspired me over the professional years. My children always inspire me to be a great father.
My better half inspires me. But I think most of my inspiration comes from within.
Upon further reflection, I think my grandchildren inspire me the most right now.
Happy Father’s Day. It’s not an easy role, but a very rewarding one. I work hard to be a good dad to my children and always be there for them.
Being a dad is the proudest thing I’ve done in my lifetime.
It’s a lifetime commitment to make. Many don’t realize that.
In the title of this post, “Best job I ever had.” The word job and father don’t seem compatible. I don’t look at being a father as work. But it is an incredible job to have and tremendous responsibility.
I had very limited time with my dad, so I’ve been kind of winging it since the beginning. My children will be the judge of how successful I’ve been.
Now I’m working on being both a great dad and granddad. The rewards of being a father just keep coming.
I can’t believe you’re going to eat that DAD. Photo by Mike Hartley
This shot reminded me that my son is taking his young son to a game soon. We are watching his baby granddaughter that evening.
I forgot that power washing is tough on the back. About 5 hours straight on the front privacy fence and I’m a bit sore. I’ll recover shortly and get mobile again.
Once I find the keys I’m going to go wind up the rubber band on that Miata and put the top down and enjoy a short ride.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Rumor is its Father’s Day weekend. I sense a good meal ahead.
We were in a chocolate shop in Frederick Maryland the other day and when I saw this picture from a shop in Annapolis it took me back to the smells from earlier this week. And I just gave my last piece to my better half this evening. I think she said it was liquid caramel.
Kilwins Ice Cream – Chocolate – Fudge.Photo by Mike Hartley
There is a chocolate shop in Ellicott City I haven’t been to yet. I think I’ll scope that out this weekend. As Homer Simson would say “Mmm… chocolate!“
Random Thoughts of the Evening
Nature put on a beautiful display of lightening bugs last evening. Swarms of hundreds in my backyard and trees.
I love the still and quiet of 3am in the morning.
When you have a smile on your face about the upcoming day, you got the reins on life in your hands.
Just keep plugging away, sometimes progress isn’t as evident as it really is.
What’s a book, movie, or TV show that you wish you could experience again for the first time? – Interesting ask by the daily prompt.
Let’s see, I plan on spending some time at the beach, so I don’t need to see Jaws again for the first time. And the more I think about this question it’s almost impossible to answer. I think back to books, tv shows, and movies and most of my favorites are linked to that point of time in my life a good while back, so seeing again for the first time now wouldn’t be the same at all.
So instead of those choices I’m going to pick music and a concert because music is timeless and hearing The Who or Led Zeppelin again for the first time live would be wild. Of course we would have to reincarnate a few of the musicians.
My better half and I stopped on the way home from some shopping and had lunch. We listed about a half dozen fast food places and some others but was coming up St John’s Lane and decided to pull into DGHD. It’s right next to Rita’s.
This is such a great diversion from the standard fare along Rt 40. And I will be back for some more of their off the wall combinations.
Today though I tried the, Lucky Luciano – Mac n’ cheese / bacon / crushed potato chips
My better half had the OG with everything except the Dijon mustard. Both were very good. I think I’ll give the Ma Barker or the Kingpin a try on the next visit.
A father/son operation that is local. One in Sykesville and one in Ellicott City.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Tried Dr Browns Black Cherry soda today. This is on my list of unhealthy things I like.
The good thing about physically working on something is that you can see progress easier.
I think the Art of The Deal just screwed us again.
Kickstart My Heart is a great song if you need a little motivation to get going.
I wonder if people who retire and miss the aggravation at work take up golf on purpose.
The sign says, “BACKYARD BOATS” and it isn’t lying. I once had a pool, and yet I feel a boat could be infinitely more expensive than that.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A good start to the day. I’m swimming along without a boat or paddle. Just pulled the cover off the fun cart (Miata) and we will be putting the top down sometime today.
Music is filling the home this morning and I’m about to fire up the outside box. Been working on some foundation sealing and hope to finish that project tomorrow. I need more supplies so back to the hardware.
We are going shopping for something I like today. An outdoor lounge chair to replace the one my behind, fell through a week ago. It was old and even though I would get in and out of it gently, it finally gave way.
What’s a common misconception people have about happiness? – An interesting ask from the daily prompt.
Wow, when I read this question my first thought went to Robin Williams. Someone who seemed so happy and spread so much of it in his lifetime was dealing with such internal pain. Behind a lot of smiles, there can be a lot of pain.
I read a simple term a long time ago. It said, “Happiness is a Choice.” I took that to heart more and the opportunity to use it has been great, but it isn’t always true. Life will throw things at you that take happiness away. Sometimes for short periods, sometimes for longer ones.
I don’t know if you can be truly happy if never experience the other side of the coin.
Happiness most of the time just doesn’t appear. Usually, it’s something you do
There is another phrase that goes, “Happiness is fleeting.” I used to think that when I was younger but now, I’m stringing longer periods together.
And you don’t have to be happy all the time. Contentment, satisfaction, listening, observing, rest and relaxation are cool.
Some people are happy just being unhappy. Puzzles the hell out of me but to each their own.
Money and prestige don’t always equal happiness. I’ve had some of the best times in smaller minor league baseball parks than the major league ones.
It’s not the size of the fan its the size of the spirit in the fan. Photo by Mike Hartley
Time for the weekly Thursday Doors challenge with our host Dan Antion. For those who love entrances, exits and the buildings and art that surrounds them this is the spot for you. The wonderful contributions from everywhere will delight. Share your own link in the comments on Dan’s weekly Door’s page.
I was in Frederick Maryland on Tuesday this week and captured a few doors. I know I have shot in this town before, but it’s been a few years. My apologies if I’ve captured some previous ones again. If so, I hope, it’s a new angle at least.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Tuesday’s a lot of shops are closed but there are still a ton of them open.
Photos by Mike Hartley
Different but same.
Photo by Mike Hartley
I love art, just not on my body. Not that I have anything against it on someone else.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A touch of green.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Lights, camera, cut.
Photo by Mike Hartley
R&D – No parking on these steps. Fire hydrant.
Photo by Mike Hartley
With RFK as Secretary of Health and Human Services, I’m wondering if he will make this site his new office soon.
The daily prompt asks – If you could instantly master any skill, what would it be and why?
I’ve always wanted to know either how to play drums or piano. I just have an interest in those instruments. And to have mastered that and be able to create music all day would be wonderful.
Drum set in window of Bill’s Music in Catonsville. Photo by Mike Hartley
Some days you just walk by something that you wish you had the keys to.
Beauty by Chevrolet. Photo by Mike Hartley
But back to reality. A beautiful morning breeze complementing the sunshine. My camera battery is fully charged again, and I’d like to get another hundred or two images taken today. But the mower called my name and now it’s afternoon. A trip to the hardware for supplies for more work this weekend.
I did take a quick joy ride for about 40 minutes and now the day is almost behind me. I’m going to have to buckle down and work on the hobbies this evening with a vengeance.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Is it really better to be alone with your thoughts? I guess it depends on the day and thoughts.
There may be a lot of intelligence in the USA. I guess we have chosen not to utilize it.
People make a lot of commitments they have no intention of filling.
If your parents are alive, make it so you don’t have to look back and say I wish I knew them better after they are gone.
Trump is a cancer that has metastasized and is killing this country.
Don’t know where I’m headed, but it will be forward and with a smile.
Just like a good handling car it’s good to have a nimble mind to handle life’s twist and turns. Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
I have lots of pictures on my walls because I like the memories they invoke when I get a moment to pause from the screen.
There is a sticker inside the trunk of my car that says, “I’m on island time.” I like seeing it when I load my camera equipment.
The need has started to look up finger exercises because these digits don’t seem as strong and nimble as they used to be. I fear arthritis may be coming.
What is one way you have grown this year? – Another good self-evaluation question from the daily prompt.
My beard is longer. Just kidding even though it is a bit longer.
These questions are good for me because sometimes I get too busy making the right and wrong decisions and moving on at times.
I’d say I’ve grown better knowing what I want and using time better and on the right things. Both with people and activities. I didn’t get off to the best start in this area but I’m hauling now.
And speaking of time I haven’t been in the seat of my Miata in a few days and I’m about to put my shoes on and go warm that up, put the top down and show my support for The Manual Gearbox Preservation Society.
We took a trip to Frederick Maryland today, which is west of us. And what a beautiful place to walk on a sunny but very comfortable day.
And a good opportunity to take my camera out.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Our first trip to The Wine Kitchen and a wonderful lunch outside. Both service and food were excellent. And we will be going back to try dinner someday soon.
Photo by Mike Hartley
We walked the Carroll Creek path which is 1.5 miles after lunch. We will incorporate the park next time, which I think I read this is a 3 mile walk total. We also walked a bit of the town.
Photo by Mike Hartley
There were a small number of lilies out, but peak season is July and August I believe.
Photo by Mike Hartley
The skies were that indescribable shade of blue today. Because as the day moved along so did the shades of blue.
Photo by Mike Hartley
And as the sign below says, “FOREVER FESTIVE FREDERICK” and it does seem like a festive place. I always leave happy.
What a beautiful day to be out and about. It’s your choice of what you want to do with it. You can be laid back, with the years showing but still rolling and relax and enjoy OR you can meet the day like a ball of fire and burn through it with many adventures and rowdy behavior.
Today I’ll try a little bit from cup A&B.
Rolling art. Photo by Mike Hartley
Got a good night’s rest for a change of pace and ready to attack the day. The body isn’t in full cooperation yet but were working on that.
It’s going to be a good day. I’m going to will it into effect. Be it here, there or everywhere I go.
Random Thoughts of the Morning
A rarity, I was up before sunrise but so busy I missed it.
I tried to talk to the deer out back this morning, but they weren’t having it.
Never take a shower for granted.
Found a new source of inspiration today.
I dread to look at what the Commander and Crook is up to this morning.
What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self? A good question from the daily prompt.
Wow that is a long list of things to tell myself now that I have almost 50 years of experience beyond that age.
First, even though I was serious about my work I was busy raising so much hell I probably wouldn’t have listened to much advice. You think you know a lot by the time you’re 20.
I’m going to give two quick answers even though the list I have running through my head now is a long one.
You only have one body. Take care of it and don’t abuse it.
Your mind is your strongest asset. Have confidence in yourself. Make good decisions. Choose friends wisely. Be inspired. You’re capable of much more than you think you are currently, so go for it.
Lots to do this fine Monday in the Mid-Atlantic. Some great weather ahead following those storms of last night to do it in.
I love early mornings. Sometimes long before sunrise. But watching light come through my window while I’m working away is a nice feeling. This isn’t the view out my window but it’s a 5-minute walk away.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Musical Thoughts of theMorning
Live life like Angus Young plays guitar.
It’s not a bad idea to start the day with a song about love.
If it’s too loud you need to think younger.
I got up around 2am so Train Kept a Rollin All NIGHT Long here.
Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships. – Not such a simple ask from the daily writing prompt.
Wow, just thinking about this is complex because boundaries are different in different relationships. It’s also something that I don’t think about much. I guess I’ve set boundaries over time that people who know me know what they are.
I think one boundary that a lot of my friends and I have come to in our senior years is that we don’t want a lot of negativities around. Life is too short to negative. Not that we don’t get there now and then on a point, but we don’t stay there and stay on topics we enjoy more now.
Okay, I admit I’m a little soft on my knowledge on the topic even though I feel like I’ve been good at communicating with people on this topic on what mine are. So, I found a chart to help me.
Physical – I’m a physical person. I shake hands with people, I hug people, I kiss those close to me. I respect others physical boundaries and don’t expect them to be the same as mine.
Emotional – I respect other feelings, as long as they respect mine.
Intellectual – The thoughts, beliefs and ideas of others are theirs. And they can have them because it’s a free country. That doesn’t mean I have to accept or agree with them.
Time – this is a tough one for most people. Who do you spend your time with and how much. People have expectations of time, and this is often the cause of tension in relationships. It’s not just showing up on time. It’s the quality of time you give people and would like from them.
Material – property, giving and lending. Be very clear in these areas. As with all boundaries, communication is key.
Spiritual – Wow this is a touchy one. I once had a close friend of many years who became very involved in faith to deal with another issue. He said to me that I’m going to hell because I didn’t believe exactly like he did. Our relationship was changed for the worse when that transpired.
Sexual – Having been married many decades you would think we got this one down. But as we age, that also changes, so you need to adapt and talk.
Don’t forget to set those boundaries and communicate them early. Photo by Mike Hartley
I always have my eye open for colorful shots. I’m not sure how to describe this one. But it’s one I’m leading with tonight because like those shirts I feel bright and happy.
And there is good reason for this. My one-year-old granddaughter said Papa Papa today. And I got to play with my grandson most of the afternoon.
Shot in Old Ellicott City. Photo by Mike Hartley
I didn’t get out to shoot because before the children came, I was mowing grass. And that’s not a short task. The sun was bright today and hot. Not as bad as yesterday but still a warm one.
In keeping with the goal though I will find something to shoot before the day is over. I did get some photos uploaded to my Zenfolio space. That is going to be a big effort this summer. Getting images into that system every day.
I’m not a big flag waver. We put some out on Memorial Day and July 4th but that is about it. Just a few small ones along the garden. But today is Flag Day so I thought I would participate here.
Our flag, it doesn’t belong to the right or left, it belongs to all of us. Photo by Mike Hartley
I have a military funeral flag from my father’s burial that is displayed in a nice case some kind person sent me and is displayed in front of 34 8×10 prints of my favorite shots from Arlington National Cemetery where my parents are buried.
Beautiful headstone at Arlington National Cemetery
A neighbor up the street has a flagpole and had theirs up all the time before they moved. They have sat empty since.
Flags at attention today. Photo by Mike Hartley
For the last 9 years of my career, I looked out my window at these two flags that flew over the Washington Post building on 15th street NW. For the first 17 years I walked under them to enter the building.
Part of blogging in my opinion is the interaction. I started off with a nice balance and maintained that for many years. This last year as I’ve increased my own production and worked harder on some of my other hobbies creating, I’ve dropped off reading and interacting in WordPress.
That was a bad development because a lot of the enjoyment of working in this environment is reading and seeing all the wonderful work others produce. I started to pick up my reading this past week but I’m going to start carving out more time to look at the creations of others.
In a lot of ways even my own creative efforts have been part time. Time to cure that oversite also. I’ve always hated the thought of being on any schedule in retirement, but without one I’m not accomplishing my goals. I’m off to discover a better mix. That might mean cutting some other things out. Or finding more efficient ways to do other things. Taking advantage of opportunities, I’m missing now.
An easy adjustment is to reduce my time on the TV. Also, I’ve got to find a more efficient way to get my news. I waste time on both those things.
Yesterday I was pretty busy working around the house and yard, but I said I’m going to pick up the camera every day. So right before I got in the shower at the end of the day, I walked over to my neighbor’s garden and snapped a few flower shots.
I’m going to get more efficient in the blogging process. Preparing more posts in advance and working on more weekly challenges.
Then the hobbies that have gotten off to a much slower start than I had hoped for. Both painting and drawing are way behind, and I have several unfinished carving projects.
Long as I have my health, I know I can turn this thing around.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I hear there is a big party in NYC this coming Thursday.
Though I complain about the aches and pains of life, I certainly have great appreciation for all the years I’ve been given.
We can pull his name off buildings but it’s going to be harder to erase the stain on this country he’s made.
I thought someone was trying to break into my house this morning. It was a red-headed woodpecker pounding on my fence near my back door.
Now I know why my mom had so many magnifying glasses around her house.
MAGA fans don’t forget to get your $11,999.99 Trump coin before their sold out.
The daily prompt with an out of this world questions this morning. – Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?
The answer to the first question is no. The answer to the second question is, I don’t care. I like life here on earth and if we start taking care of ourselves and this planet it could be a beautiful place.
So, what to pontificate on this Sunday morning.
I think a day trip is in order this week. And I’ll get the firepit roaring in the evenings again, being it’s going to cool off a bit this week.
How to make the best use of today? Stay busy. Take a ride with the top down. Love and play with my grandchildren. Eat smart.
There was a deer with her newborn fawn in my backyard this morning.
The Knicks won the NBA championship. Proving it’s still a TEAM game. No superstar, just a bunch of guys playing together.
Well, it looks like the timing for that bad weather and the UFC fight on the White House lawn are set to kick off around the same time. Thank you, Karma. The place looks like hell. Half the house torn down, cock fighting in the front yard. I’m sure they’re bringing some outhouses in for all those people. All we need is a few cars up in cinder blocks and a few more trailers and were there.
Some high broken clouds this morning in Maryland. Photo by Mike Hartley
I thought I was good on automotive history, but I completely whiffed on this one. I had never heard of Fisker before I shot this picture when I was in NYC and looked it up as I was editing what I thought was a throw-away shot. I’m not sure I’d want a vehicle with Pacman painted on the roof.
We need to get out on the bay or offshore on the Atlantic Ocean soon. We always had more than just a good time together. Epic weekends for the history books are the norm.
The 3 brothers and Kim and I make up the Allview Fishing Team. We lost one teammate a bit over a decade ago. And the rest of us are no spring chickens, so we better get our behinds in gear and get out on the water again.
I was a little heavier on this trip. It’s been a while since this team was out together. We might have to rectify that situation soon. Rumor is that 2 of our team of 5 was out yesterday on the blue waters off the Florida coast. Photo of me, by Capt. Dan McMullen if I remember correctly?
I rarely if almost ever run a shot of myself. But this one reminded me of some good times. We have caught marlin, sailfish, tuna, rockfish, shark, and mahi mahi, if I remember correctly. Nothing like fresh caught fish and prepared that day.
Sort of reminds me of the younger days catching crabs off my friends dock and steaming them up and having a feast. When I was very young my Uncle Frank taught me to fish on Lake Ontario, when we would visit in the summer. Unfortunately, most of the time it was around a funeral.
Even though I love to fish we have been caught in a few storms which always makes me respect the water. Fortunately, we had good captain’s and came through fine.
I won’t be needing my sea legs today unfortunately. I do know I’d rather have a pole in my hand than the weeds I’ve been pulling half the morning.
Oh, the eye patch is a joke. One of my nicknames has pirate in it.
Time for the weekly Thursday Doors challenge with our host Dan Antion. For those who love entrances, exits and the buildings and art that surrounds them this is the spot for you. The wonderful contributions from everywhere will delight. Share your own link in the comments on Dan’s weekly Door’s page.
I’m a day late, can’t keep my schedule straight in retirement. Certainly not my best work this week. Just some shots as I was passing through areas on my way to someplace else. This coming week I promise a much better post. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend.
The first three shots are from a small town in Maryland called Lisbon.
Photo by Mike Hartley
The screen door on the side wasn’t as attractive as this guy out front. Hey it’s Maryland, what do you expect. We love our crabs.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Doors, I don’t need no stinking doors, if the gate is shut, I make my own. Plus I don’t have to lean over as far in this pasture.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Some of us are still looking for our door.
Photo by Mike Hartley
I was standing on the sidewalk when I took this shot. And I didn’t zoom in.
The daily prompt asks – What’s a cultural tradition from another country that you wish existed in yours?
I was aware of a few traditions from other countries, but when I looked at some of the others, I was enlightened and somewhat surprised.
One stood out to me that I wasn’t aware of. In Finland, it has been traditional since the 19th century to participate in eukonkanto – the sport of wife-carrying. There’s even a Wife Carrying World Championship.
So, if the World Cup isn’t your thing or coming to the USA isn’t desirable now (I understand and apologize) you can get to Finland for the 2026 championship in July.
Like this young man dancing on the piano keys below, I wish I had the freedom that youth allows, to create magic. I feel like time has taken some of that away from me. That is why I like watching my grandchildren so much. To see them explore and create freely. Without too much thought, without delay, without preconceived parameters.
At the FAO Schwarz store in NYC. Photo by Mike Hartley
It’s still inside me. Just pushed down by the weight of time. That magic that just gets you working with abandon. I’m going to work to unleash that again.
So, if you see me dancing down the street on my imaginary keyboard just smile and say he found his mojo.
In addition to driving a Mazda, I also have a Zoom lens.
Skyline looking out to Statue of Liberty. Photo by Mike Hartley
I’m just getting back to doing some editing of some shooting I did when visiting NYC. There is so much more to see there that another 2-3 visits will just scratch the surface. I’d like to get out to the Statue of Liberty next time. Instead of reaching out through the camera.
Zoomed in from the same spot above shot was taken. Photo by Mike Hartley
Another spot I needed my monopod that I didn’t have it. I’ve really got to start taking that with me every time I step out with the camera.
We will do some local trips before heading NYC again or other destinations. This weekend it’s going to be too steamy, and we have grandchildren commitments.
Random Thoughts of the Day
The Grifter and Chief
Age sneaks up on me most of the time when I see a mirror.
It’s pizza for dinner. Life is Good.
Nobody is noticing I’m letting my beard get longer. I guess it’s a gradual thing.
This month is moving by too fast. Flipping my daily calendar is like flipping a day away.
I love riding bikes. I don’t do much of it anymore but seeing this group got me thinking about visiting the local bike shop again.
Photo by Mike Hartley
There had to be a group of 30-40 riders along Route 99 that day. It’s a great stretch of road between Rt 32 and Rt 94 and beyond really. Everything going west is good.
It’s going to be tough working outside. Feels like temp is 102 now. Looks like it’s time to sweat a few pounds off.
Random Thoughts of The Day
I said it a while back and I’ll say it again. The Knicks look like a team of destiny.
Those moments where you’re doing things and then a few more things and suddenly realize that you did them without pain of any kind. It’s like this victory that nobody saw. And then a pain of some kind returns and normal life resumes.
Bank of America is pissing me off again.
Keeping a positive mind is a lot of work at times.
What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country? – Tough question from the daily prompt. Hope I don’t misinterpret it.
I would guess people think there is a lot more crime and violence here than there actually is. Another thing I might think people visiting would make is with food. Portion sizes here are large compared to other parts of the world I believe.
I’m thinking America has a reputation of being a rather rude or in your face country. I’d say a small percentage of us behave like assholes. Most of us are very friendly.
When you’re traveling state to state pretend you just entered a different country.
Don’t assume we have competent leadership here.
This is a tip and tax country.
I guess most countries have some form of racing. And some of you might have seen racing in the USA also. Maybe the Indy 500 or Daytona 500. Well, we don’t really separate that from our highways here so if you’re renting a car, get ready to compete.
There is a lot of Natural and Man-Made beauty in this country. It’s also a very BIG country and if you are out wandering be careful and know the environment/weather before venturing out. Speaking of weather, don’t underestimate it. We have it all, hurricanes, earthquakes, tornados, floods, blizzards, ice storms.
There are a lot of chains here in the USA. But just like your home country some of the best places are local independently owned restaurants. Locals will gladly share the best spots.
Have a great visit please. Despite our incompetent leader and his circus clowns we love other nationalities and ethnicities. Those who hate are too stupid to realize they built a lot of this country.
Washington Monument and Capital. Photo by Mike Hartley
The most colorful couple I saw today. I love seeing people hold hands.
Photo by Mike Hartley
The winner of the largest family in town today.
Photo by Mike Hartley
And the winner for best seat in the house goes to this at the back of parking lot D.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A spot I’ll be trying next week for breakfast or lunch. The Little Market Cafe.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Stopped by and saw the participants and winners of the Paint It contest by the Howard County Arts Council. They will be on display for a while and there were some wonderful pieces at the old City Court House 8360 Court Ave.
I hope your Wednesday has been a good one.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Feeling unusually tired today.
I wonder why we are allowing an unstable person to have the nuclear codes.
Didn’t get caught in that thunderstorm today. Still got a walk in, luckily.
I see the circus has come to the White House lawn.
Ellicott City looks stronger than it has in years.
What’s a song that always puts you in a good mood? – Now there is a good question from the daily prompt.
I’ve been listening to music this morning as I’ve been working on several things. And I’m in a good mood so the group that has put a pep in my step this morning has been The Doobie Brothers. Here are some songs from them that have been filling my headphones.
I used to look forward to the end of the work week and the beginning of the weekend. After almost 2 1/2 years of retirement that feeling is pretty much gone. Only the calendar, pill box, and other people’s schedules that are still working keep me on that cycle.
I do have some weekly goals that do focus on that timeframe but not like a work week. It’s very liberating but also a sense of detachment from the rest of the world. I stay as flexible as possible and try to accommodate other’s schedules.
My professional life in newspapers started off on a weekly basis because I worked for a weekly firm that published 12 local papers and did printing for several other weekly or monthly commercial products in the region. So, everything was tied to a weekly schedule. That went on for 23 years.
I do miss it, the smell of newsprint and some great people, not the grind. Photo by Mike Hartley
Then a sudden shift to a daily newspaper for the last 26 years of my career. That is a strange existence. Daily means 365 days. No break, no holidays, no weekends. It just all blends together. The only differentiation between the week was when I was getting called at home on the weekend instead of being there.
And sometimes during my career the weekend was during others workweek. Most of the time there it never really felt like there was a weekend. So many were interrupted or spent working. I’ve worked hundreds of holidays over the years.
Daily businesses always do their critical work like upgrades, at the least busy times. Could that be weekends, nights, holidays? That was the most exciting and pressure filled work I’ve done. I loved the work I did and the areas I got to work in. It was also brutal on life.
Now I’m into the rewarding part as a senior in retirement. I still have a boss in my better half, and truth be told the kids and grandkids think they are assuming control. My granddaughter has already told me this is her house. And my almost 4-year-old grandson claimed my tractor a few weeks ago
I’ve completely made life about looking at just the next day. Yes, there are a few errands and chores, as there is every day. But that need to get up and go work for someone else for 5 days is history and I feel for my family and friends who are still in that cycle.
Today I put my heart and soul into my hobbies and those close to me.
I’ve written before on some fears I’ve overcome, and how I did it. – But the daily prompt insists on asking it again.
For a while after retirement, I thought the number of fears I had were increasing. Now a couple of years into it, I feel less fear than I did before.
Some have changed. I used to drive back and forth to Washington DC and some of the busiest surrounding areas. So, driving in some of the most congested and dangerous areas was nothing. Now the beltways and interstates aren’t that comfortable anymore now that I’m not competing in the daily death race back and forth to work.
As I was getting into my 50s, I used to fear getting older and sick again. That fear is faded because I guess we all eventually accept the inevitable. I just make the best of each day now.
I never feared speed before. I don’t think I fear it now; I just don’t have that desire anymore. I don’t think it’s out of fear, but I guess anything is possible.
You ever stop fearing for your children or grandchildren. I just spend as much time loving them and with them and that helps.
I used to fear people who I thought were super intelligent. Then I realized that most of them have big deficiencies in other areas.
The thing that scares me the most now are those ads for these meds with all the nasty side effects like death and things like that yet living. I hope I never have a need for them.
My main fear now is the messed-up world we are leaving our children with. I’m going to try to overcome that fear by working on changing it for the better.
I think a lot about paths. I’ve walked a few different ones. All 4 of my newspaper companies had unique paths. I remember the day I drove into the Times building on 8307 Main Street in Ellicott City. This was my entry into the field.
Here is this Newspaper plant in the middle of the sleepy town. Across from the lumber mill and a few doors down from the firehouse, which was a daily reminder as they sped by with sirens blaring to save life and property.
This pathway (below) is behind the old Times building in Ellicott City. That used to lead to a dirt/gravel lot used by employees.
A path started in Ellicott City. Photo by Mike Hartley
The small walkway pictured above actually was built on top of that old bridge which if you look closely, you can still see below the freshly constructed walking path. Yeah, we used to drive cars over that rickety structure and park in a lot behind the building.
That is all paved nice big parking lot D now. Both of those bridges are gone now courtesy of the floods last decade and weren’t replaced.
One day my path took me to that Times building where my mom worked to pick her up from the job on the way home from my first semester in Community College. There were two guys just a little bit older than me arguing in a hallway leading to the Composing area. We might have called it flatting back then I think. 1975 was a long time ago so bear with me.
Anyway, the argument escalated and someone said, “you’re fired” and then someone said, “I quit,’ And I heard one gentleman mumble now I got to hire someone. BINGO. I spoke up and said I was looking for part-time work. And so, my career (didn’t know it at the time) began. That part-time gig quickly turned into full-time with as much overtime as I could work, which was anywhere between 20-30 additional hours a week.
I was just starting my second semester at the time and funds weren’t plentiful. Plus, I was working in a photo reproduction/engraving area. Which was somewhat related to my Applied Art and Design major. Well, those hours and paychecks quickly became more important than school so my career in Newspapers had begun and college came to a close.
I always park in that lot now behind the building and look at it. And think of those days over 50 years ago. I was standing on that bridge for the last picture they took of me for last employee edition of the company paper when we bought out in 79.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I like jerk seasoning much better on chicken than shrimp. Secrets in OC has some good jerk chicken.
Some doctor visits can give you a good perspective on what is important in life and what is the small stuff.
I just noticed on the bag of animal crackers that the animals are no longer in their cages. Lions and tigers, oh my.
So much for the rule of law. Being that’s been usurped I’ll be making my own.
Wasn’t my idea but I don’t mind promoting it. Found it outside a shop in Annapolis MD. I do know they got one part of that shirt right. We have lost that lovin’ feeling.
A far more productive week than the previous one has me feeling good this Sunday evening. Concentrating more on what I accomplished than what I didn’t.
So, let’s set the bar a little higher this week. I got a great start on chores today so I should have some creative time to work on a few projects this coming week.
The side of the new River House Pizza. When it opens.
These guys got more painting done this week than I did but it’s the first thing on my list for Monday morning.
My better half has been busy making the gardens look great.
I was going to stay up late and work, but I think I’ll crash and get up well before sunrise and work then.
Photos by Mike Hartley
Maybe I can get out the door well before sunrise for some night shots.
This is Woodstock Road in Howard County Maryland. One of the many single lane roads that connect this county, like blood vessels through a body. Many of these back roads have hills, corners, blind spots and PEOPLE who live on them pulling in and out.
We can do better. That double line is there for a reason. Photo by Mike Hartley
I’ve been run off the road by people passing on hills. I’ve had to come to a skidding halt to avoid being hit. I’m tired of it.
When we first moved here many decades ago, the speed limit was 40 mph. It was probably 20 maybe 30 years ago when the county changed the speed limit to 30 mph. It makes sense given the change in elevations of this road and the serious curves and hills beyond this stretch of road photographed.
That part is even worse with no shoulder, just a guardrail and rock in some spots. At both ends of Woodstock Road are busy establishments that have been here forever. The Snowball Stand and The Woodstock Inn. Both are popular and have patrons walking in and out most of the day and night. Right on the ROAD.
I’m trying to think of solutions because someone is going to die soon. We recently had another long-time neighbor move and one of the reasons was the crazy drivers here and almost being hit several times on this road.
Look, I’m not talking about being a bike rider on this road which I also think is insane but, in a car, and being almost hit. Lots of times it’s just people not paying attention to and crossing the center line. As you can see there is no place to go in spots. This happens almost every time I go out.
This road gets every kind of traffic from motorcycles to 18 wheelers. There is a lumber mill further up the road so trucks with monster trees and dump trucks sprinkled in. I like them because they slow things down and people rarely risk passing something that long.
Hey, this isn’t just a problem here, it’s everywhere. Too many risk takers for a few seconds’ advantage. And on Woodstock Road, that is usually negated by the train crossing at the bottom of the hill where EVERYONE waits.
Have a good day. I’ve got to drive the mower a bit before I venture out to this road. Wish me luck and may you all have luck on the roads today.
I neglected to include this image of one of the talented artists working in Ellicott City Friday for Paint IT in my earlier post about this event. The actual exhibit Howard Country Arts Reception is June 8th from 6-8pm.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Those storms this evening knocked out my power 4-5 times, but they were short outages. The winds were blowing pretty good and I’m sure I have some branches to pick up once daylight hits again.
I’m torn about what I want to accomplish today. Some mental turmoil going on so laying in the hammock, taking a ride, getting an ice cream sounds good. On the other hand, the yard needs cutting, a gutter is clogged, I need to change the oil on the mower, I’m sure the storms have the decks littered with debris and that is off the top of my head before looking at the to-do list.
And then there is my desire to photograph, paint and finish a carving for my granddaughter. I got a good start on cleaning my office last week but there is more to do that would help production. I’d like to read some today.
I guess it’s nice to have options. I’ll end up doing a mix of chores, fun and hobbies as usual, but it would be nice to have a day to just focus on the hobbies all day.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I’m beginning to feel the nocturnal life is more suitable for me.
The stillness after a storm is eerie. Especially at night.
It is my belief that you appreciate the good times much more because you’ve experienced other extremes.
I find it sad that some people going into retirement feel like they don’t have anything left to accomplish. I guess I’m not wired that way.
I used to stretch before playing sports. Now I have to stretch every morning because life is now a sport.
The daily prompt asks a good question today – How do you build loyal subscribers?
We used to have a saying in the newspaper business that “Content is King” meaning if you have good and interesting content, well displayed organized and illustrated, they will come and stay.
I hope something I present here connects with people maybe an image makes them smile or laugh. And I thank you for subscribing if you choose to.
It’s not that I don’t care about people looking at this. I’ve met some very nice and supportive people here and I love this environment more than other social media platforms. Not that I utilize others much. A little Facebook that I’d like to ditch because of ownership, but life is short and I’d still like to keep a few long-distance relationships I have going through that platform.
I’m puzzled by some of my subscribers, some are just doing it to get their site attention and they are selling something. Others in faraway places in the world puzzle me also.
I’m guessing a few may subscribe for nefarious reasons.
But back to the question, (my mind wanders often). Obviously the first change I’d make is to make navigating my blog easier. I’d switch off this out and no longer supported theme. I’d have sections for the work I’m presenting. I’d build more things to promote interaction. I’d build value into the site by providing expertise, experience, information, and views that are important to a target audience.
You find out what your subscribers want and provide that information to them. You can entertain them, maybe it’s finding other like-minded people to that bond to build something bigger and better. Like the challenges that people run.
I do this for fun. I do this to improve my skills. I do this to grow mentally and challenge myself. I do it in bits and pieces between a very busy life. None of this probably builds loyal subscribers. I do this because of my daily publishing background has somehow ingrained in me to publish daily on my own.
One day I’ll get my act together and make this something that will have some significant subscribers because I hope to have much better content. And Content is King.
But it won’t matter a bit to me if that doesn’t happen either as long as keep having fun at it. Thankfully subscribers aren’t what drives this effort. Not that I don’t appreciate them, the comments and likes makes me think someone enjoyed my somersaults.
Keep it coming sunshine. I’m loving it. Got out this morning for sunrise.
Left my monopod in the other car so these are handheld.
They were shot at the corner of Route 99 and Woodstock Road in Howard County MD. Overlooking the Howard County Conservancy. I love mornings like this.
I was up well before sunrise and got the whim to head up to the corner by the Snowball Stand.
A nice mix of clouds and clear sky.
Played with a few different settings, angles and focal lengths.
I like getting out on summer mornings. I wish I could make that a habit year-round but that isn’t happening.
Photos by Mike Hartley
Some time with family today will limit shooting this afternoon but I hope to get out this evening for some more images. I do have a few more hours this morning to play. Maybe some bird shooting from the deck. Let me get at it. Have a good morning, all.
Restaurant Review
Grille 620 in Turf Valley MD – It had been a few years since we ate there last. Not because we didn’t like it, there are just tons of great places to eat around here. But I had a taste for a good steak, and I wanted one close by. Both were accomplished.
Service was great. If I remember correctly, our servers name was Gabe. We did two apps; the Crab Stuffed Mushroom caps and the Thai Shrimp which was the best I’ve had. For the stuffed mushrooms I’m used to the shroons being a little more done, but they were still very tasty.
The 8oz. Fillet was perfectly cooked and very tender. The potato/mushroom/onion side was also very good. We split a Creme brulee which was also good.
Outside seating on a perfect evening. The umbrellas took away the sun and made the evening perfect. Inside looked a little dark for me. Maybe it was just coming inside from the bright sunshine to be seated. Overall, a great meal and time. We will be back.
Random Thoughts of the Day
First cortisone injection in my foot. An interesting experience.
Each ride is its own slice of heaven.
The entitlement of some people always surprises me.
Always rely on yourself. That way if others disappoint, you still survive.
The overpopulation of people makes it seem like there is an overpopulation of deer.
The daily prompt asks – Share a proverb you think is completely wrong and make your case.
Blood is thicker than water. – That can be true with some family members but maybe not all. I’ve seen and been part of fractured families. I’ve had friends closer to me than family.
Don’t cross that bridge till you come to it. – Wrong, planning is important. If you don’t think ahead, you might not consider the options you have when you get to that bridge.
Every cloud has a silver lining – While a lot of them might, not everyone does. Just like storms, some roll in right behind one another with bad news.
Fall seven times, stand up eight. – I’m all for perseverance but see a doctor if you’re falling that much.
I’m not a painter yet. I saw many talented artists out working today at the Paint Ellicott City Plein Art paint fest. So, as well as photographing them I thought I’d try to paint with the camera also and came up with this shot.
A reflection in the water of the stone walls and a tree. I should have flipped it over.
Oh, yeah, I like that angle even better.
Well, enough playing, I’ve got to go clean up dinner dishes. It was good, I haven’t lost my touch.
Been out and about for most of the morning and home for a short bit before I headed out to capture some artist participating in the Plein Air contest. A few shots of some of the artist below.
I also got to attend my granddaughter’s elementary school picnic today. The second chance to attend her school events and I love them. Watching the proud parents interact with the children. The kids playing effortlessly with each other laughing and screaming. The danced together for the parents who all had their cameras on.
The teachers watch with eagle eyes over the children. So many smiles and laughs. Watching them run with abandon, fall, get up laughing and continuing to run, jump, climb, crawl, leap, roll and hug each other. 1st graders are so cute.
Almost forgot to charge my main camera battery before leaving today. I’ve got to get a spare for that.
Paint It! Ellicott City is an annual plein air event that is held in June with an exhibit that is on view through August. There is a juried portion with special awards and a reception hosted by HoCo Arts.
I got to town late and I’m sure the heat made some get out early and pack up early.
There were a few artists still working hard in the heat.
Photos by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
A nice evening for a drive.
When are one of these men or women going to call Trump out for being a rude to his face and tell him that he doesn’t know his own asshole from a hole in the ground.
Must have been a good time this week because Monday – Friday flew by.
Time to attempt to fix my special dish again. I’ll take a picture of it later. Unless I’m starved and dig into it before shooting.
I guess CBS expects to steal viewers from FOX to make up for the loss of everyone else who used to watch. Good luck with that strategy.
Kind of ironic I ran into this shot while editing this morning. It reminded me of last night with my best friends. One of which just had his dog pass unexpectedly. When we get together, he would always bring his dog, and my other best friend also has a dog so they would play and keep each other company when we get together each week.
Last week she knew something was wrong when he didn’t show up with his buddy. This week was even more pitiful. She followed him in, sniffing him relentlessly trying to pick up an essence of her old friend. She doesn’t understand. She spent the rest of the night looking down the hall for him.
Each of us has a lot of windows. I don’t open many of mine too often. But at other times I guess I over share with both windows open and the top down for a full view of the vast empty space between my ears.
Every now and then I feel like I find a nugget of inspiration and success. Be it here in the blog or a photo series I do.
I’ve always driven with my windows open. I’m not an air conditioner type person. I grew up without it at home or in cars, so I guess that’s why I tolerate heat better than most. I’m driving around in 90-100-degree weather with the top down many summers.
Today looks like a hot one so the top will be down on my afternoon jaunt. Speaking of which, it is time to get motoring.
Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not? – Asks the daily prompt.
Soulmates is a term I haven’t used a lot, but I feel like I’ve had several. So yes, I believe in them.
That connection that is stronger than most. The feeling that they know you and you know them on a deeper level.
Lots of marriages have found their soulmates and their love for each other is boundless and unconditional. Soulmates look into your eyes and you into theirs.
Soulmates don’t lose connection because they are naturally drawn together. You understand them easily. You can understand their pain and empathize with them. You say good things about each other and support each other. In ways that make you both better.
You’re in sync with each other, you listen better and interact with enthusiasm.
The other day I remembered an old childhood friend. We were soulmates. I’ve been married to my soulmate for decades. And luckily a few more are soulmates that I’ve had for decades.
Soulmates can rescue and save you at times in life. And you for them.
Why do I believe in them. I’ve experienced it.
Sometimes soulmates never speak a word but communicate more than most people.
Getting by with a little help from my friends. Photo by Mike Hartley
Time for the weekly Thursday Doors challenge with our host Dan Antion. For those who love entrances, exits and the buildings and art that surrounds them this is the spot for you. The wonderful contributions from everywhere will delight. Share your own link in the comments on Dan’s weekly Door’s page.
Sorry about missing last week. Life kind of got out of hand for a few moments, but I’m back in the driver’s seat. At least this is fresh shooting from this week. Trying my hardest not to reach into the archive.
I can’t resist this town (Ellicott City). One because I love walking it. And several other milestones in life happened here.
I’m having a hard time celebrating right about now, but I do appreciate the effort. Photo by Mike Hartley
Not the best doors but they have hinges and a handle, so they pass the mustard.
Photos by Mike Hartley
Too bad these doors below are on the second level. If memory served me right, I think there was a balcony there at one time in history.
The sign might be hard to read but it says “Warning – Due to the current workload, the light at the end of the tunnel has been switched off”
Photo by Mike Hartley
The peeling words on the door on the right read Hocus Pocus.
What’s something you’d love to see in the future, but know you probably won’t live to witness? – Interesting question from the daily prompt.
I’d love to see peace in the world but that certainly won’t happen in my lifetime.
I’d love to see great leadership appear and guide this country in a better direction. I guess it’s a possibility, but it seems so far off.
I’d love to see people live in better harmony with the earth we live on. We are abusing our own home. And I probably won’t be around to see the real damage we have done.
I’d love to see all my grandchildren as adults finding their love and being happy.
The People Tree by Lake Kittamaqundi. Photo by Mike Hartley
What issue will get my goat today? Politics, weather, gas prices, waiting to see if the guy doing my A/C checkup is going to give a thumbs up or down?
One of the critters at the Howard County Conservancy. Photo by Mike Hartley
How about none of them. Yesterday was like that. Few things if any got my goat. Well, the occasional bad driver, which is unavoidable if you even start your car, but otherwise it was a stress-free day.
A doctor’s appointment is on the agenda but that is all the commitment I have for today.
The fact that the day is flying by so fast is troublesome but that just means I need to make better use of my time. Picking up the camera bag and doing a little shooting before and after the appointment sound like a good idea.
I hope few things if any get your goat today. It’s too nice outside here for any nonsense today.
Feeling like I’ve got a good jump on being more active this month. Now to sustain that effort each day. This one was easy because it was just one of those early June days with low humidity and just a little below average temps with a slight breeze.
The only downside is the amount of pollen in the air. But we made it through without a sneeze.
Second walk of the month was at the Howard County Conservancy. What a great day for it also.
Nothing but blue skies and comfortable temps in the low 70s.
It’s 232 acres that I plan on fully exploring.
Wear your hiking shoes.
It’s nature so of course there is some color.
I plan on getting to know the 5 miles of trails well in the future.
What a nice stretch of weather. It feels so good to be outside in the sun, watching nature. Life is good again. Been working hard the last few days. But I’m sensing the need for balance so maybe a little relaxing this week.
My friends say I work too hard for a retired person. Maybe I do, I’m not sure. I know it keeps me more active. I know if I hired a lot of this work out, I wouldn’t have a tractor for my grandson to ride on. And I’d have a lot less money to spend on eating out and other things I like.
I do know I want to work harder on this and a few other things this second half of the year so there is no time like the present to get moving.
Yesterday I walked Ellicott City. Today I believe we will go for a walk at the Howard County Conservancy and grab a few images along the trails.
Observation. I saw the county road crew go up and down the street and into each court. I saw them doing some curb repair as I was pulling back into the neighborhood. So did they fix the 3-foot divot in the curb in front of my house. Noooo. That damage wasn’t by my doing either. I got back after a trip and saw that.
I thought the county would fix it when they patch the other parts of our decaying curb structure. Funny I paid my property taxes. Maybe I’ll send a note in with the next one and tell them to take off about 3 square feet on their next assessment. Maybe the supervisor will take a ride by and see they missed it.
Photo by Mike Hartley
Meant to fire up the firepit last night but got tired again. Tonight it will be blazing again.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Trying to make the world a better place, one image or thought at a time.
Getting my weight under control again. Got a little sloppy with the sweets again.
Shell (the gas company) has lost my business for lack of customer service.
Ants are persistent beasts.
When the hell did I start being concerned about gas mileage when buying a new mower?
What’s a moment in your life that felt like it was straight out of a movie? – Asks the daily prompt.
We were nearing the end of a wild vacation trip that ended in Daytona Beach Florida. We were debating whether to stay another day or two. That morning we were speaking with some friends back home and they told us about a party that evening. We said we’d be back the next day or the day after that.
But after having breakfast we joked about showing up and surprising them. We continued to joke about it but let some time lapse and then looked at each other and said “Let’s Do It.” That became our moto because the movie Animal House had just been released and we saw it on the 2nd day of a 9-day trip.
That drive was like a Smokey and the Bandit or Cannonball run movie.
We had my nice old Camaro and broke a few speed limits, we’ll all of them on the way back in record time and showed up and surprised the crew. We took turns driving, each tank of gas, which that V8 ate like candy.
One of those stupid things you do as a youth. It was the most fun I’ve ever had driving though. And one of the best vacations ever outside of family ones.
I don’t have a good shot of my old favorite, but it looked like this but in maroon color.
Bang we’re off in the month of June and it’s one of my favorite times of the year. The beginning of the SUMMER season and the great outdoors and sun. I must have some secret sun worshiping genes passed down to me because I’m drawn to it.
I went for a ride this morning and got a haircut. Great way to start the day.
I thought I’d try to start taking a few shots around the county each day and posting them. A good way to get my butt out of the chair and out and about.
Work continues at the old Flour Mill in Ellicott City. Photo by Mike Hartley
Above and below, inside and out of that giant structure.
A lower entrance to the mill project. Photo by Mike Hartley
A good seat to watch the progress.
Breakfast at the Old Mill Cafe. Photo by Mike Hartley
The sun was hitting the castle nicely this morning.
Historic Castle Angelo. Photo by Mike Hartley
By 10am I’d finished walking up and down Main Street. Good exercise.
And the bell told me it was time to get going.
Bell at the Firehouse Museum. Photo by Mike Hartley
Personal remembrance –Today was one of my best childhood friend’s birthday. He passed a few years ago and I do miss him. He was one of those people that you have a connection with and in sync with them. Big Pete was one of those people to me. A genuine person that passed too early. RIP Bob.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Lots going on inside this head of mine. Unfortunately, more questions than answers at the moment.
If you like doing something, get busy doing it.
The yard, a love hate relationship. I hate it when I start working on it and love it when I’m done.
I don’t dislike shopping when I have something to buy and money to do it.
This is an interesting neighborhood I live in.
Hegseth is someone trying hard to be badass. If you compare his talk to military commanders who are quiet and measured in their tone and response, it’s because they know they are badass.
The daily prompt asks me to – Go on a walk today and share a photo of something that catches your eye.
I had already planned on going for a walk today. Later this morning in fact and yes, I would have my cameras with me as normal. That is what I do now in retirement. I take pictures when I get the opportunity. I write, draw, paint, and carve also.
The problem in fulfilling this request is that I usually do the daily prompt between 2 and 5am. Not the ideal walking time on a cool first morning in June. Kind of dark also.
So, I’ll share a photo I took on a walk recently. And as always, my intent is as the sign says below. Framing Life’s Best Views is my mission. Along with some levity.
“Got a crazy feeling I don’t understand.” What a great line in the song Ozzy’s Flying High Again. I’ve had a lot of crazy feelings in life. Good thing I stopped acting on most of them. But many remain and surface every now and then.
I don’t know what I’m feeling today. A mixed bag of emotions, then again isn’t every day. I have trouble staying on an even keel. I worked hard and feel good about that but I’m restless and frustrated. So, time to turn it around this evening.
Sometimes I read inspirational quotes I’ve saved. The one today I liked was –
An artist cannot fail; it is a success to be one. – Charles Horton Cooley
Which has inspired me to finish a painting tonight. Might also attempt some night shooting. I’m certainly going to do some writing. And get a plan for shooting for the next few days.
On the road again this week. Photo by Mike Hartley
Random Thoughts of the Day
I’ve got to finish writing a note to a good friend for his anniversary.
Confidence to overcome problems is a very strong asset. It’s gone in ebbs and flows in my life, but I feel it returning.
Lots of people are pretending all is fine, when it’s not.
So far, I don’t need any of those meds they advertise on TV. And I hope I never will because they sound worse than whatever they are treating.
Sometimes I feel like it’s too late. I hate that feeling.
The last day of May and I’m disappointed in a lot of things. Going to do better in June.
I’ve got to call an electrician and get some work done here instead of seeing if I glow or not.
I may have picked a bad season to start letting my beard get longer. It’s getting grey. I wonder if I could play Santa? I’m sure I could get it that long by the time the season rolls around.
The last two days with my children and grandchildren have been wonderful. My daughter and her daughter yesterday for some play, laughter, lunch and cake. We have used our deck two days in a row and have been loving it.
My son visited the day before with his children and we also had lunch and played for hours.
These simple times can have some real memories in them. From a young grandchild grabbing my hand strongly with so much excitement it’s hard to understand them talking about where we’re going and what we’re doing but I slowly pick it up. But just feeling one of them squeezing my hand is something I’ll cherish.
Mostly because I know it has a lifespan. Then again, I can see my granddaughters holding hands as I congratulate them on their graduation years from now. And certainly, a firm handshake from my grandson and a big hug from all of them.
So many things about a simple life appeal to me. Not having a huge home or expensive cars to worry about. Not having to travel far and wide to be happy. Being close to my children and grandchildren that we can see each other with ease. Having friends, I can gather with regularly.
We don’t need the Michelin 5 Star restaurants; we have some local favorites that suit us just fine. I don’t need a seat on a cruise ship; I have my hammock on my old pool deck.
I don’t need the latest and greatest camera equipment; I’m fine with my outdated and average cameras.
I think I’ll keep this Sunday simple.
Right time, right angle, right day. It’s easy when someone else sets up the still life for you. Photo by Mike Hartley
What’s the first book you ever finished and still remember to this day. – Asks the daily prompt.
That is a long time ago to remember the first book I ever read. I still have a few old books on my shelf that may have been the first I remember. The first is Operation Deep Freeze. From my dad that is signed by the author Rear Admiral George J. Dufek who he served under. Dad went on operation Deep Freeze I & II.
It’s also signed by several of the captains of the ships on those voyages. Those go over a few pages, so I just shot the author’s signature.
The other book is American Sports Hero’s by Fred Katz.
What’s the most profound piece of advice you’ve been given? Did you take it? – Interesting questions from the daily prompt.
A wise person once said to me at work. “Mike, you know this area in and out and you love it. You’re an excellent teacher and skilled but I need you to let go of it and be involved in new things that keep us growing.
Yes, I took it and it helped me take some more risks in the future that worked out well.
So, my advice to you is to go for it.
Its green and the town is trying to get going. Photo by Mike Hartley
The daily prompt asks – If you had an unlimited budget for 24 hours, what would you do?
I’m cranky and don’t like questions like this. Spending time in fantasy land instead of doing something productive is counterproductive to me.
Thinking like this fuel’s addictions like gambling. That goal of money and greed isn’t good. But it seems that is the focus of so many of us.
Even if you were thinking of doing good for 24 hours that is an enormous task. And it’s too much responsibility for me to even map out in post this morning. Plus, my grandchildren will be here within the hour, and I have to turn into Mr. Entertainment.
Me, I’m going to stay and spend within my income budget and try to make the world a better place and enjoy the people around me today.
Photo by Mike HartleyPhoto by Mike HartleyPhoto by Mike HartleyPhoto by Mike Hartley
I chose the title of this post (House of Pain) because a song titled that came up this morning on a mix I was listening to. That song always causes me to pause and think about pain.
Today is the anniversary of my mom passing. 15 years seems like a long time, and no it doesn’t feel like yesterday, but it also doesn’t feel like 15 years. Mom meant the world to me, and she tried to make our home and my life and my sisters the best possible. And she did a great job.
No home is perfect. Families struggle with mental and physical health issues. Financial and career problems. Addiction monkeys on members. Trying to have a family meal together but family members are going off to war. The day-to-day pressures of life and relationships.
I’ve seen a lot of pain in a lot of households. And enough in my own home growing up.
Mom doing one of the things that made her happy. I still have that picture of her and my father in the background on the shelf above my desk.
Families though have many things hidden to others. Ours was no different. But things only stay under wraps for so long.
In going through some more old family things yesterday and today I was reminded of some very worst of times. Tragic events that eventually lead to my father’s death. These must have shook her to the core and caused a lot of pain.
They lumped in with many others in my memories of that time that I didn’t realize the seriousness of or was shielded from it at the time before I was 5. But by time I was 6 or 7 years old, I knew serious things were happening. At 9 I was fatherless and at 42 mom was a widow.
I don’t know anyone who had dealt with more pain in their life than her. And I wasn’t the best of help in my teenage years shortly after his passing. I’m glad I changed and helped make her life better.
She had some good days later in life but her first 50 years were a struggle of epic proportions. Losing both of her parents at a very young age. Growing up in the Great Depression. A husband away in WWII and Korea. And many other personal family issues she dealt with my father and stayed by his side and tried her hardest to help him. She also had a great deal of courage facing physical problems both early and late in life.
I’m glad I have memories of better times with her, but I will never forget the sounds of her crying when I was young.
What’s a show that had the perfect series finale? – Asks the daily prompt.
I was always a big fan of the show M*A*S*H and thought that final was good. There were two others that I also liked. The Newhart show and Cheers had good finales.
Of course, Derek Jeter last game at Yankee Stadium was also great with a walk-off hit to win the game in the 9th.
It’s not over till we say it’s over. Photo by Mike Hartley
There I go again, off on another tangent. This must stop. That rage must end.
Okay, I’m better again. Could be the music I just turned up. The prospect of seeing my children and grandchildren this weekend. The thought of the sun appearing tomorrow after a week of absence. Maybe that twitch in my left leg, and right hand can be cured by that manual transmission once I rip the cover off.
I’m sorry, after a week of sitting the traction control button is going to be disabled and the top will be down.
All these things have me looking up. I know I’m behind on some fresh shooting for this week. I captured my favorite Hawk Monday between the rain taking in the view from a power pole in my back yard.
Someone is pretending to ignore me.
No matter how far he turned his head I bet he never lost sight of me.
Photos by Mike Hartley
And of course, after he finished pretending we looked at each other for a good bit.
I feel kind of creative today. Must be this cleaned up office. I just put a fresh stack of 8×10 semi-gloss in the printer, so I think I’ll make that hum for a bit.
I might try some night shooting when darkness rolls in.
Random Thoughts of the Day
I forgot that I really liked the Bob Segar song Shakedown a lot.
My mom had beautiful penmanship. I didn’t get that gene.
I have a choice to express myself or not. Why waste the opportunity to go wild.
Today feels like a day to mess with a telemarketer caller.
The more I look at the classic cars the more I’m convinced if I ever need another car (I’m keeping the old Miata) I’d get a classic muscle car.
Well so much for the morning fantasy. I’ve gotten the latest start to the day today in a long time. Guess I needed to catch up on some beauty sleep. It’s not helping that aspect but mentally I do feel a bit more refreshed.
Today is the last day of cloudy skies and rain for a bit. It’s been feeling swamp like the last few days, but at least it’s helped the drought situation here in the mid-Atlantic a bit. There is a downpour going on outside right now and some thunder.
The Purgeand the Priceless
It has begun. My office is already 100% better and it has inspired me to continue so I’m sorting through my old things and my parent’s things.
So many photographs, I’m both very thankful and feel like I’ve been assigned to be a photo editor for two people who have prints from 3-4 decades and they weren’t bashful in pushing the shutter apparently.
I’ve made purges in the past; my mom was an avid gardener. And she also loved taking pictures of her flowers and gardens. I mean lots of them. Years and years of blooms. Or holiday photos or the cat pictures. But as always, some old gems that are priceless and that I want kept in the family for historical purposes.
The few antiques that need to be looked up for value if any. Then comes some tougher things. The personal items. Most of which have gone through a sort or two before. I don’t want to leave my children an overwhelming amount of stuff to go through like we did.
I have a box in front of me of medium size filled with newspaper clippings. Most of my dad’s stuff from his later days in the Navy in the 50s and early 60s. Lots of historical things from ships travels and bases on Operation Deep Freeze I and II. His work in DC at Bethesda Naval Hospital.
Today I learned a lot more about my father in a letter to my mom from a Captain that served with him for years. I learned some great things, but it reminded me of some very tough things. Some that I experienced when I was young. My dad had health struggles late in his young life.
But I’m extremely glad to have a better picture of him when he was healthy and the work, he did and how he went about it. Things I never got to talk to him about.
Found a shot of his of this penguin jumping on Operation Deep Freeze. I have a number of slides he took that have a lot of nature there also that I have to digitize. I haven’t run into too many prints yet but there are a few more boxes.
Random Thoughts of the Day
Family is a lifetime commitment.
Tomorrow the cover comes off and some seat time in the convertible will be had.
I’ve added ice cream to my list of additions. I wish I could help myself. I guess working in an ice cream factory at a young age scarred me for life.
By the end of the day, I will no longer be embarrassed to bring someone into my office.
The daily prompt asks – If you could have dinner with any philosopher, who would it be?
I’ll be selecting my close friends. They aren’t on any list of any famous philosophers of the past or present. But we are all great philosophers and provide endless enlightenment and solutions, far and wide each time we gather.
We have been doing it for decades. For most of our lives it’s been weekly gatherings from the time we were teenagers. We have explored every facet of life with abandon and humor. We never run out of thoughts and almost die laughing together on many of our observations and takes of life.
Were a bunch of nuts who love to have a great time. Sometimes after a day of fishing. Maybe a ballgame. Or just our regular weekly gathering exploring fixes that are sometimes eye opening or very funny and absurd recommendations. Most of the time after a very hard week at work and raising a family and trying to stay sane.
In our younger days we were always gathering after we finished playing basketball together. Watching a football or hoops game or just raising holy hell which we tended to do regardless of the reason for getting together.
We have had so many fun dinners together. Where everyone contributed to the prep, cooking and cleaning. All the while getting toasted as Joan of Arc. Retiring to the front porch to watch the sunset over the water and continue pontificating on the world and everything in it. Then retiring to the firepit for the final analysis and shots for the evening.
When one of our stalwarts tries to stand and asks what round it is and someone says the “fights over man”, and others grab his arms and say “were going to the locker room” as we walk him back towards his house and bed.
Thinking is always better by a fire. Photo by Mike Hartley
How do you handle fear and self-doubt? – Asks the daily prompt.
Interesting question to field so early in the morning. I believe I handle those two differently.
Fear is quick and I don’t let it get to me. Yes, it’s a natural response in situations but it’s how you deal with it. I learned about handling fear when riding a motorcycle.
One of the first things I learned is not to overreact. Grabbing the front brake too hard and you fly over the handlebars. Stomp the rear brake too hard you’re going to skid and lose control. The front brake is about 70% of the stopping power so it’s a balance of using both brakes the right way and staying in control that helps you stop the quickest. At least that is the old logic. It’s been a few decades since grabbing the throttle.
Luckily, I had a good friend explain that to me early on and practice makes perfect. Well almost, it’s still how you react in that situation. But if you’ve done it lots of times it’s more likely you will survive.
Next with fear is fixating on something instead of thinking and looking ahead. You go where you look on a bike and if you’re focused on the problem then you’re heading right towards it. What are your alternatives/actions you can take.
Emergency fear on a bike. Someone once told me that people react in one of 3 ways. Some just shut their eyes and shut down. Some are transfixed on the problem ahead and then there are those who react/avert and save themselves.
Self-doubt I have more issues with. It’s plagued me throughout my life. Few people can beat me up like me. Even when I know I’ve done well or a good job, I’m always picking it apart.
Self-doubt has kept me from even participating in things or taking positions at work.
Age helps overcome self-doubt. That experience leads to more confidence at least while taking the next step and moving forward. Having good people around you will help you with self-doubt because they will acknowledge that you have skills and smarts. And encourage you to do more.
I got much better in dealings with self-doubt in my 30s and 40s and had overcome it in my 50s and 60s at work when I had a duo of confidence and experience to balance it out.
But then an interesting thing happened. Age betrayed me. In my last year of work, I noticed things that used to be root knowledge I was suddenly questioning myself again and looking at my notes to make sure I was right. I was always right but self-doubt had crept back into my life.
And in retirement I feel that more again now not being so sure of things. I guess I have more work to do in this area again.
One of my best friends told me his (buddy) dog died last night. That’s a great loss for his family and I feel so bad for him and his wife. I’ve always admired all his relationships with his dogs over the many decades I’ve known him. A lot of love and time is spent between them. He would tell me about the walks they went on.
Or how he would just lay on the basement floor with them and play and love. The nuances of each of his pets were relayed always with a smile and grin. Where they slept, what they would do when he got home, what was their favorite treat, how good a swimmer they were, how they were protecters.
When we gather each week, the dogs are part of almost every vigil.
Q was a great dog. Very friendly and lovable. I enjoyed giving him attention and loven’s. It will be a solum meeting this week.
Always ready to go. Photo by Mike Hartley
Pets become so much more and are family members to most. Many of us have experienced that pain of that loss. The void it leaves in our hearts and in our days.
It’s too much for some. My better half couldn’t stand to go through that again. And I understand this.
I’m fairly sure my friend will get another dog. He has always had one. I can’t imagine him without one.
I’m convinced animals especially dogs are so loving and squeeze so much into each day because they know how short life is and how precious each day is.
Between that gut wrenching pain my best friend is having I also hope he is remembering how much joy they gave each other.
Arlington National Cemetery – Having visited here to see family I’ve also taken some time to shoot around the cemetery. Being it’s Memorial Day I thought I’d share a link to a few hundred shots I’ve taken at various seasons and spots. I find it to be a beautiful place.
It’s strange how different my visits are. Some are easy and always feel good when leaving. Others have been difficult at best, usually when it’s been too long in between visits.
Here is the link to that gallery of images. You can select Slideshow in the upper right if you want to just sit and think about this holiday for a few minutes. Mike Hartley | Arlington National Cemetery
Thank you for your sacrifice and to your surviving family members I wish you peace and fond memories of your loved ones.
Flags for the fallen on Memorial Day at Arlington National Cemetery. Photo by Mike Hartley
Unfortunately, it’s a raining day here so there is no bright sunshine falling on the headstones and flags today. I hope to go next Sunday morning to visit.
