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Hard years are part of life

What’s a chapter of your life you’d title “The Hard Years” — and what got you through it? – Asks the daily writing prompt.

I’ve had a lot of challenges throughout my life. Physical, mental, professional and personal. So, it’s hard to pick a set of years. But I’ll qualify that by saying that I’m thankful for every one of those years. You learn a lot about yourself and others during hard times.

Also, I’d like to say my hard times don’t hold up to people who really experience real hard times. I’ve been hungry but never starving for one example.

I’ve had cancer a few times. After a couple of different surgeries, I needed radiation for a few months after the last one. I would sit across from this little girl in the waiting room who had a tree full of bags of meds on wheels she would take with her as she went into her room for treatment. She had no hair and looked thin. But she sat up straight, had the most beautiful smile and spirit with her mother by her side. I’m thankful for her reminder that I wasn’t having a hard time.

There were times when jobs overwhelmed me. In the sheer number of hours and mental/physical effort over long stretches of years. I think my refusal to fail got me through those times.

If you’re married or in a long-term relationship there are hard times, but you shouldn’t have hard years.

Raising children can certainly be a challenge and a very hard one for many years but it’s the most rewarding thing you can do.

I’ve experienced painful losses in our family early on at times. Those were very difficult years but there was hope, to get us through.

I’m a senior now and I feel the hard years are ahead of me. The time that you start losing those lifelong friends and family members. People that are important to you, loved and have a lot of shared history. The ones that will leave holes in you. Those thoughts scare me the most. And I don’t know how I will get through those most difficult times.

Maybe I’ll remember the phrase a US Marine I worked with would say. “Improvise, Adapt, Overcome.”

A person fishing on the beach, standing barefoot in the sand with a fishing rod, shadows stretching on the ground as waves roll in.
Find a solution. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Come home

The daily prompt wants to know – What’s a book you think deserves a sequel?

I don’t know about a book that needs a sequel, but I do know a life that needs one. My dad passed 60 years ago today. That means we had a very short time together. I need a sequel to learn more about him. To know him. To love him again.

You don’t have many chances at life. Some very few. Don’t waste them.

Dad showing me the proper grip on a football a month before he died.
Photo by Shirley Hartley


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Villains with a point

The daily prompt with a difficult question – What villain actually had a good point?

So being I’m not a superhero movie type I went looking for some quotes of villains.

When we allow ourselves to be consumed by anger, the only victim is ourselves. Gellert Grindelwald, Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore (2022)

If you don’t protect what belongs to you, then sooner or later, it belongs to someone else.Negan, The Walking Dead, S10.Ep3: Ghosts

Choice is an illusion created between those with power and those without. The Merovingian, The Matrix Reloaded (2003)

It’s just sad, how a little bit of knowledge can become so powerful when surrounded by ignorance. Lincoln Potter, Mayans M.C., S1.Ep8: Rata/Ch’o

It’s easy to fool people when they’re already fooling themselves. Quentin Beck, Spider-Man: Far from Home (2019)

“Madness is like gravity. All it takes is a little push.” – The Joker

Here are some words from a wise man who is no villain.

Words for thought. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Da Beach

If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? – I bet a lot of people like this question from the daily prompt. I wonder what percentage of people live right now, where they want to live, if they had this choice.

I live right where I want to be at this moment in my life. To live further away from my children and grandchildren would be unacceptable for us.

I’ve always thought about living at the beach. Maybe Bethany Beach Delaware or Fenwick Island. Even though that desire is strong it’s not going to happen because I’m loving watching my grandchildren grow and being here if my children need help. Now once they are grown, and if I’m blessed with a long life, I might think strongly about that move but at that age it would probably be too disruptive.

So, like the couple below we will visit the beach often as possible and dream about a home there. But also smile on the way home because we get to hold and play with those little bundles of joy.

A couple walking barefoot on a sandy beach, with gentle ocean waves in the background and a gray sky.
Lets give it a shot. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Chaos

Is a little chaos actually good for us? – A rather vague question from the daily prompt.

When I first read the question, my initial answer was yes. If life is predictable, then it can get a little boring. But I do like order and structure in my life. At the same time, I loved to shake things up occasionally both in my professional and personal life.

If you look at the definition of chaos it says – complete disorder and confusion.

When I think about a visual of chaos, I see a huge crowd of people and a loud bang happens sounding like a gunshot and chaos ensues. People running in all directions because nobody knows if it was a shot or where it came from so it’s just pure panic.

Now when I think of a little chaos I think of someone proposing a new process that changes the entire production process that when implemented blows up. But in that chaos new lessons are learned and sometimes that chaos brings progress and new and better ways of doing things.

The danger with a little chaos is that it can get out of hand quickly. Take for example the coming election. The little chaos that comes with people arguing different points and solutions. But if people feel that elections are stolen, then that is a whole new game.

I’m suspecting this is going to be a trigger point for this country. I like listening to smart people. And when a smart person was asked the following, I agree with his response.

“Do you agree that we are covering in real-time an assault on our elections, the upcoming ones?”

“I’m very concerned of what’s going to happen in the next election, absolutely,”

Concrete path with white directional arrows indicating left and right turns, surrounded by grass and trees.
Which Direction to choose today. Chaos or consistency. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Shift

The daily prompt wants to know – What’s a lesson you’ve learned recently that shifted your perspective?

I learned that the better listening skills I use, the more I know about people. That and some well-placed questions can really open your eyes.

I learned the better research and investigation I do the better decisions I make. I’ve gotten a little lazy in retirement when a simple task of replacing my tractor taught me that incorporating some of the skills I used long ago when working still comes in handy.

I learned I can’t handle the heat like I used to so my perspective on the part of the day I want to be up for and outside has shifted.

I learned compartmentalizing things is a good survival skill.

Have a great day. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Sleep it off

What do you do to improve your sleep? – Now that is a timely question today.

I laughed at this question for a while because just before this and old friend and I were trading emails about lack of sleep in our lives.

And for example, we have tonight. I fell asleep at 8pm last night and woke before midnight. I’ll probably be up the rest of the night/morning now. Even though I’ve been retired for 2 and half years, that last decade of working the overnight shift screwed up my clock badly. My body is more comfortable now, being up late at night.

I sleep in little shifts. And I do get more than I used to when I was working. Taking advice from me might be suspect but I’ll offer some anyway.

I suggest a hammock, great for sleeping.

Can you swing it? Photo by Mike Hartley

The most important factor in my sleep is my mood. If I’m satisfied with the day and my life, I can rest easily. If I’m troubled, it’s a crap shoot. Sometimes listening to a little music or watching a little comedy will put me in the right spirits and make going to bed easier.

Finding a way to wind down and relax is big for me. I can be physically exhausted from watching grandkids and not sleep well. It’s more mental for me. Letting my mind slow down and downshift a few times enough to have some good thoughts and fall asleep.

Quiet is also essential. Remarkably my hearing is still in good shape, and I’m woken easily by sounds. I rarely sleep in a storm. Sometimes the basement has helped in that regard.

If I’m sleeping well, I go with it and sometimes get 7-9 hours. It’s not often, but here and there. But if it’s not working, I don’t lay there endlessly looking at a seam in the wall that could use some touch up. I get up and get to work and hopefully take a nap later.

Naps are cool. I took them long before I retired. Being I wasn’t getting a lot of sleep some days, I would catch sleep as I could. When you’re trying to sleep during the day it’s not like the rest of the world stops and says, “hey we got to let these night shift workers get some sleep, can you keep it down.” Quite the contrary in fact.

So, I learned dark out curtains are important. Silencing phones and shutting the door to my room. This is where I will also acknowledge that the effort of my better half to work in silence while I slept for a few hours was remarkable. Living on opposite schedules 4 days a week is difficult on both parties.

Then I flipped back to a day schedule to participate in family and other normal activities that day dwellers did. An interesting life, I don’t recommend it with one exception. In my younger days when we started a family, I worked nights and my better half days and we shared watching the kids so one of us was available for them and saved having daycare costs.

As I thought about how to wrap this up. I thought about the weirdest place I’ve slept in. I once slept on the 18th green (no I wasn’t a member). I’ve slept in and on my car. I’ve slept on my desk and under it at work. I’ve slept on a roll of newsprint (those are big). I’ve slept on a beach and in a boat. Under the stars in a sleeping bag. I’ve slept on a roof and on a pool float. I even fell asleep once on my motorcycle once.

Sleep On a Beach – great for sleeping with the sounds of the waves. Get a dark pair of shades and umbrella.

Always something flying at the beach. Photo by Mike Hartley

Whatever you do, get your sleep on, because it’s important.


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Walk it off

The daily prompt says – Hit 5,000 steps today and drop your achievement here – we’re cheering you on!

If the daily prompt is going to give me an exercise mission it had better do it the day before because I don’t respond well to marching orders first thing in the morning.

Yes, if I were at the beach I’d be out walking about now but I’m not at the beach and I haven’t had my morning Coke yet. I’ll get my 5,000 steps in today, and probably more if I cut the backyard with the push mower.

Now 10,000 steps in a day is a nice goal. I’ll report tomorrow if I hit that.

Take a walk on the wild side. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Negative vibes

What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts? – Asks the daily prompt.

This is something I have experience with. And while experience is a good teacher, I’m no expert here. Good old negative thoughts are unavoidable so dealing with them is key to survival. This is a subject that probably keeps shrinks in business. The amount of material written on this topic is immense.

My mom said something very important at a young age when I struggled. She said, “there is always someone that is in a worse position in life or health than me.” So, she taught me to be appreciative of each and every day and things in your life.

So why do we struggle throughout our entire lives with this? In some way it might be a survival instinct. You know the old hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

I’ve learned to use negative thoughts to inspire me to action. As example I got disgusted with myself for being overweight a while back and use that as daily motivation to keep it in control and be at or very close to a very healthy weight.

The political situation has spurred lots of negative thoughts. A situation largely out of our control. But I vote every chance I get. I’ve started to get involved in rallies. I’m making my voice heard. Still, anytime I turn on the news I’m disgusted, depressed, angry and the negativity comes creeping in. Sometimes I have to stop listening as much. Not disconnecting or giving up, just catching a breath to reengage.

You can share your negative thoughts but be careful not to make life about that. Or even the whole conversation. Negativity is not an attractive trait.

Lots of times I’ll try to find humor in negative situations. It does several things. Sometimes it helps put things in perspective. Sometimes just to lighten the mood.

Just moving on from negative situations or people is a positive step and a needed one sometimes.

Sometimes you endure and outlast a negative situation. I’ve done that on the job several times because I’ve liked the people I worked with and the place I worked, and I wasn’t going to let some glorified in his own mind prick going to ruin it for me, so the battle was on.

When I read this prompt today the first thought that came to mind was the movie Kelly’s Heroes. An old WWII classic with many stars. Donald Southerland plays a tank commander called Oddball. He’s speaking to his mechanic, and they are arguing about the tank being broke in the middle of a war. And the following was uttered.

  • Oddball: Why don’t you knock it off with them negative waves? Why don’t you dig how beautiful it is out here? Why don’t you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?
  • Moriarty: Crap!
Don’t let negative thoughts be your ball and chain. Photo by Mike Hartley


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then and now

The daily prompt asks – What do you love now that you hated when you were younger?

I hated working in the yard and gardens when I was younger. Especially mowing because I had bad allergies when I was young. I outgrew them thankfully and enjoy cutting the yard now. My better half is the gardener, but I pull a ton of weeds throughout the year and kill many others.

I take pride in my yard looking good. It’s far from perfect but it’s well kept.

Yeah, I thought that was a strange one also. But it’s the first thing that came to mind.

I don’t mind being alone now. When I was younger, I was always with people.

A person walking along a sandy beach with waves crashing in the background.
Alone with nature is nice now. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Gut feelings

What’s a time you followed your gut, and it turned out to be exactly right? – An interesting ask from the daily prompt.

Wow, nothing jumped immediately to mind on this question. Then again, the 5am hour is a bit early to be contemplating life’s choice. I’m not sure I’ve gotten something, exactly right ever. My gut has made a lot of good decisions, but each new path lays more choices and tests.

I’ve gone with my gut a lot of times. It served me well professionally and even when it didn’t go exactly right, I was glad I stuck with the path I chose.

Several friends throughout my career have told me that I could earn more elsewhere. And I’m sure they were right. My gut said are you happy with what you do and who you do it for and I said yes so I stayed at a few jobs for decades. That was the right choice for me and being retired I think it was right for me and I’m happy with it.

Okay, here is a simple one that came to mind. 10 years ago, it was time for a new vehicle. Instead of going with the muscle car, which was my first thought and choice, I test drove a Miata and bought one that day. I love to drive and that thing is the most fun I’ve had in any car I’ve driven. As the phrase goes “Miata is always the answer.”

A legal go-cart for the road. One unique thing I’ve found is that its interest and appeal span all generations. At our club meetings we have youngsters, teens and early twenties to us old fossils in the 60s and 70s. All with that common love of the feel of driving that car.

Yes, it’s 10 years old and the top doesn’t go down as easily as it once did. There are a few paint chips in the front. But otherwise, she is clean and running well so I hope to get another decade out of her.

Red convertible sports car parked on a paved area with black alloy wheels.
Fun in a small package. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Sunday foolishness

Emperor Palpatine has announced open elections for new Emperor – and he’s nominated Darth Vader. You get to nominate one challenger.

And I used to say there were no dumb questions.

Okay, I’ll nominate Jake and Elwood Blues. Black suits vs black robe. Hat’s vs Helmet. 1974 Dodge Monico former police car vs the Death Star. Stormtrooper’s vs the badest Blues Band in the world.

“It’s 106 miles to Chicago, we got a full tank of gas, half a pack of cigarettes, it’s dark… and we’re wearing sunglasses. Hit it.”

And when I have James Brown on my side from the Triple Rock church shining the light on us, I think we’re a shoe in.

Being the old Blues Mobile was destroyed I found them a new one to do battle with the Death Star.

Exit stage right. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Believe

What’s something you used to believe as a kid that seems ridiculous now? – An interesting ask from the daily writing prompt.

At a very young age I used to believe that everything was going to be okay. At a very young age I found out that everything wasn’t going to be okay.

I grew up in an era where most of the major league sports players usually played their careers with the same team. I don’t know how kids now get attached to their local team when the pieces change so much each year.

I used to think that leaders and sports stars were somehow all people with great character. There all just as flawed as the rest of us.

I believed I could become an artist someday. It does seem ridiculous today because I gave up on it for so many decades. But maybe, just maybe if I’m given some more time here, I might make that belief as a kid come around.

It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Changed

The daily prompt wants to know – What’s a piece of media (book, movie, song) that changed how you see the world?

When I was young there was a lot of music talking about the chaos in the country. CSNY (Crosby Stills Nash and Young) was one of them that reached me. I was maybe 12 when I started listening to what was classified as counterculture music. The kind your parents came in and said what the hell is that.

Many songs from the late 60s and early 70s were ones that inspired emotions, gave messages that made you think, challenged norms. I know I felt changed by much of it. Like the song title from the group Ten Years After “I’d Love To Change The World”

Comment – This is a very important question moving forward. Media can influence how we see the world. And that has never been more obvious than the current times.

I’m not encouraging you to dump getting information because you fear it’s all tainted. It’s always had a slant one way or another depending on your views. BUT in all that information is the truth. You have to dig, you have to question, you have to read and investigate. You have to find trusted sources but also check them from time to time.

And then Teach Your Children as CSNY said. Teach them to love and look for truth.

Stylized text graphic featuring the word 'LOVE' with the word 'SOMEONE' curved underneath, on a black background.


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Book beginning/ending

The daily prompt with a question I’m totally disinterested in. – If you could change the ending of any book, which one would it be.

I don’t have an answer to this question. But I am interested in writing a book. I’ve started a few and haven’t made a ton of progress but each day I’m plugging away. I have trouble imagining the ending right now. As time changes and life change the ending my change.

Because those are the things that I’m writing about. Life, time and what we do with it. Writing is easy. Editing is another thing. I’m learning I just need to write first and edit later. I get caught up in mixing the two together too often.

I don’t even want to think about an ending now because the journey is still going on and that is the enjoyable part of the process. The end/finish line is the sense of accomplishment. But the writing up to that ending is what makes that special.

A good book on a nice day on patio of Whole Foods building. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Speak

The daily prompt wants to know – Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?

In linguistic terms I only speak one language. English and some might say not to well.

I used to speak fluent technical talk before I retired.

I can also do sports, photography and automotive speak.

My better half occasionally accuses me of speaking in different languages.

When some idiot drivers cross my path, my language gets quite colorful.

When we are on a boy’s weekend and some liquid refreshments become involved, languages of all tongues are made up and mostly laughed hysterically at.

I’ve been told to speak to the hand.

I think only speaking English has been a detriment in my life. I think I’d be much more enlightened with the ability to speak other languages.

A brown dog reaching out to greet a hand in a home setting.
No, we are not going outside. Just talk to the hand. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Lend a hand with advice

What’s the best advice you’d give someone younger than you? – A dangerous question from the daily prompt.

Advice can be dangerous. Good advice is priceless. I’ve given a bit of advice to young people over time. I’ve worked with a lot of young people and I’ve enjoyed it. Yes, I was frustrated at times but the energy and new looks they can bring inspired me during my career.

Given the fact that most people are younger than me this is what I do most days. You’d think I’d be an expert by now. But I’m not.

So, I’ll keep it simple young people –

Never give up hope, believe in yourself, find a passion, work hard at it and love a lot.

Now here is some advice, on advice.

  • Lots of people will give advice far beyond their reach.
  • All advice comes from someone else’s perspective. That necessarily isn’t bad, but it might not be the best path for you.
  • Consider the source of the advice.
  • A lot of advice is best displayed by examples.
  • If you’re giving advice to someone important to you and it isn’t received the first try, please try to find another way to impart the important information.
  • Giving advice is a lot about the proper timing for the advice.
  • People will give advice that was good in their day and may not apply to current times. And that isn’t intentionally bad advice, it’s just what worked for them in their time.
  • Most of the time people giving advice have good intentions, but there are a few people in this world that will give bad advice intentionally. We’ll let me correct that. There are a lot of bad people in this world who will give you bad advice, but thankfully there are still more good people. But this should be a word of caution on accepting all advice.
  • I’ve listened to great advice and horrible advice. Don’t beat yourself up over the bad advice and learn from it. And don’t get too cocky over the good advice, remember that came from someone else and you just used it.
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Inspire

The daily prompt asks – Who are you most inspired by?

That is a hard question to answer because there have been different people at different times in my life. My mom inspired me early on. Various co-workers and managers have inspired me over the professional years. My children always inspire me to be a great father.

My better half inspires me. But I think most of my inspiration comes from within.

Upon further reflection, I think my grandchildren inspire me the most right now.

Three children standing together outdoors, one holding an American flag.
Now there is a formation. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Success

What’s your top tip to be successful in life? – That’s a tough one because there are so many ways people define success.

Find people you love, be with them and work hard at a passion you have.

A brown horse and its foal standing in a grassy field with trees and a fence in the background.
Stealth Colt. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Another choice

What’s a book, movie, or TV show that you wish you could experience again for the first time? – Interesting ask by the daily prompt.

Let’s see, I plan on spending some time at the beach, so I don’t need to see Jaws again for the first time. And the more I think about this question it’s almost impossible to answer. I think back to books, tv shows, and movies and most of my favorites are linked to that point of time in my life a good while back, so seeing again for the first time now wouldn’t be the same at all.

So instead of those choices I’m going to pick music and a concert because music is timeless and hearing The Who or Led Zeppelin again for the first time live would be wild. Of course we would have to reincarnate a few of the musicians.

Silhouette of a person playing guitar with arms raised, text says 'LET THERE BE GUITAR' and 'TODAY'.


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Happy arms

What’s a common misconception people have about happiness? – An interesting ask from the daily prompt.

Wow, when I read this question my first thought went to Robin Williams. Someone who seemed so happy and spread so much of it in his lifetime was dealing with such internal pain. Behind a lot of smiles, there can be a lot of pain.

I read a simple term a long time ago. It said, “Happiness is a Choice.” I took that to heart more and the opportunity to use it has been great, but it isn’t always true. Life will throw things at you that take happiness away. Sometimes for short periods, sometimes for longer ones.

I don’t know if you can be truly happy if never experience the other side of the coin.

Happiness most of the time just doesn’t appear. Usually, it’s something you do

There is another phrase that goes, “Happiness is fleeting.” I used to think that when I was younger but now, I’m stringing longer periods together.

And you don’t have to be happy all the time. Contentment, satisfaction, listening, observing, rest and relaxation are cool.

Some people are happy just being unhappy. Puzzles the hell out of me but to each their own.

Money and prestige don’t always equal happiness. I’ve had some of the best times in smaller minor league baseball parks than the major league ones.

A young girl in a pink shirt enthusiastically cheers while sitting on a person's shoulders at a baseball game, with spectators around her and a scoreboard in the background.
It’s not the size of the fan its the size of the spirit in the fan. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Skill

The daily prompt asks – If you could instantly master any skill, what would it be and why?

I’ve always wanted to know either how to play drums or piano. I just have an interest in those instruments. And to have mastered that and be able to create music all day would be wonderful.

Close-up of a drum with 'THE BEATLES' printed on it, displayed in a shop window.
Drum set in window of Bill’s Music in Catonsville. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Growth

What is one way you have grown this year? – Another good self-evaluation question from the daily prompt.

My beard is longer. Just kidding even though it is a bit longer.

These questions are good for me because sometimes I get too busy making the right and wrong decisions and moving on at times.

I’d say I’ve grown better knowing what I want and using time better and on the right things. Both with people and activities. I didn’t get off to the best start in this area but I’m hauling now.

And speaking of time I haven’t been in the seat of my Miata in a few days and I’m about to put my shoes on and go warm that up, put the top down and show my support for The Manual Gearbox Preservation Society.

A red convertible sports car parked on a road with green trees in the background and a partly cloudy sky.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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So many things

What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self? A good question from the daily prompt.

Wow that is a long list of things to tell myself now that I have almost 50 years of experience beyond that age.

First, even though I was serious about my work I was busy raising so much hell I probably wouldn’t have listened to much advice. You think you know a lot by the time you’re 20.

I’m going to give two quick answers even though the list I have running through my head now is a long one.

You only have one body. Take care of it and don’t abuse it.

Your mind is your strongest asset. Have confidence in yourself. Make good decisions. Choose friends wisely. Be inspired. You’re capable of much more than you think you are currently, so go for it.

An elderly man with glasses and a straw hat is painting on an easel while a young girl in a pink shirt watches him attentively. The background features a crowd and some green shrubs.
Art and youth. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Boundaries

Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships. – Not such a simple ask from the daily writing prompt.

Wow, just thinking about this is complex because boundaries are different in different relationships. It’s also something that I don’t think about much. I guess I’ve set boundaries over time that people who know me know what they are.

I think one boundary that a lot of my friends and I have come to in our senior years is that we don’t want a lot of negativities around. Life is too short to negative. Not that we don’t get there now and then on a point, but we don’t stay there and stay on topics we enjoy more now.

Okay, I admit I’m a little soft on my knowledge on the topic even though I feel like I’ve been good at communicating with people on this topic on what mine are. So, I found a chart to help me.

Physical – I’m a physical person. I shake hands with people, I hug people, I kiss those close to me. I respect others physical boundaries and don’t expect them to be the same as mine.

Emotional – I respect other feelings, as long as they respect mine.

Intellectual – The thoughts, beliefs and ideas of others are theirs. And they can have them because it’s a free country. That doesn’t mean I have to accept or agree with them.

Time – this is a tough one for most people. Who do you spend your time with and how much. People have expectations of time, and this is often the cause of tension in relationships. It’s not just showing up on time. It’s the quality of time you give people and would like from them.

Material – property, giving and lending. Be very clear in these areas. As with all boundaries, communication is key.

Spiritual – Wow this is a touchy one. I once had a close friend of many years who became very involved in faith to deal with another issue. He said to me that I’m going to hell because I didn’t believe exactly like he did. Our relationship was changed for the worse when that transpired.

Sexual – Having been married many decades you would think we got this one down. But as we age, that also changes, so you need to adapt and talk.

A rustic wooden fence along a grassy area with small trees in the background under a cloudy sky.
Don’t forget to set those boundaries and communicate them early. Photo by Mike Hartley


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I like this planet

The daily prompt with an out of this world questions this morning. – Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?

The answer to the first question is no. The answer to the second question is, I don’t care. I like life here on earth and if we start taking care of ourselves and this planet it could be a beautiful place.

So, what to pontificate on this Sunday morning.

I think a day trip is in order this week. And I’ll get the firepit roaring in the evenings again, being it’s going to cool off a bit this week.

How to make the best use of today? Stay busy. Take a ride with the top down. Love and play with my grandchildren. Eat smart.

There was a deer with her newborn fawn in my backyard this morning.

The Knicks won the NBA championship. Proving it’s still a TEAM game. No superstar, just a bunch of guys playing together.

Well, it looks like the timing for that bad weather and the UFC fight on the White House lawn are set to kick off around the same time. Thank you, Karma. The place looks like hell. Half the house torn down, cock fighting in the front yard. I’m sure they’re bringing some outhouses in for all those people. All we need is a few cars up in cinder blocks and a few more trailers and were there.

A wooden waterfront building beside a marina, featuring boats docked next to a pier, with a cloudy sky in the background.
Some high broken clouds this morning in Maryland. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Fav meme

What is your favorite meme? – Asks the daily prompt.

I love comedy and memes are funny, but I don’t spend a lot of time with them. I pass a few on FB but that is about it.

This is one of my favorite old ones.

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Carry on

The daily prompt asks – What’s a cultural tradition from another country that you wish existed in yours?

I was aware of a few traditions from other countries, but when I looked at some of the others, I was enlightened and somewhat surprised.

One stood out to me that I wasn’t aware of. In Finland, it has been traditional since the 19th century to participate in eukonkanto – the sport of wife-carrying. There’s even a Wife Carrying World Championship.

So, if the World Cup isn’t your thing or coming to the USA isn’t desirable now (I understand and apologize) you can get to Finland for the 2026 championship in July.

A person carrying a child on their shoulders while walking along a pier with a clear blue sky in the background.
Carry on. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Visiting

What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country? – Tough question from the daily prompt. Hope I don’t misinterpret it.

I would guess people think there is a lot more crime and violence here than there actually is. Another thing I might think people visiting would make is with food. Portion sizes here are large compared to other parts of the world I believe.

I’m thinking America has a reputation of being a rather rude or in your face country. I’d say a small percentage of us behave like assholes. Most of us are very friendly.

When you’re traveling state to state pretend you just entered a different country.

Don’t assume we have competent leadership here.

This is a tip and tax country.

I guess most countries have some form of racing. And some of you might have seen racing in the USA also. Maybe the Indy 500 or Daytona 500. Well, we don’t really separate that from our highways here so if you’re renting a car, get ready to compete.

There is a lot of Natural and Man-Made beauty in this country. It’s also a very BIG country and if you are out wandering be careful and know the environment/weather before venturing out. Speaking of weather, don’t underestimate it. We have it all, hurricanes, earthquakes, tornados, floods, blizzards, ice storms.

There are a lot of chains here in the USA. But just like your home country some of the best places are local independently owned restaurants. Locals will gladly share the best spots.

Have a great visit please. Despite our incompetent leader and his circus clowns we love other nationalities and ethnicities. Those who hate are too stupid to realize they built a lot of this country.

View of the Washington Monument with American flags in the foreground and the U.S. Capitol building in the background under a clear blue sky.
Washington Monument and Capital. Photo by Mike Hartley


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So many to choose from

What’s a song that always puts you in a good mood? – Now there is a good question from the daily prompt.

I’ve been listening to music this morning as I’ve been working on several things. And I’m in a good mood so the group that has put a pep in my step this morning has been The Doobie Brothers. Here are some songs from them that have been filling my headphones.

  • Long Train Runnin’
  • Neal’s Fandango
  • China Grove
  • Need A Little Taste of Love
  • Rockin Down The Highway
  • Without You
  • Dangerous
  • The Doctor
  • Slow Burn
  • Listen To The Music
  • Nobody
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More and less fear

I’ve written before on some fears I’ve overcome, and how I did it. – But the daily prompt insists on asking it again.

For a while after retirement, I thought the number of fears I had were increasing. Now a couple of years into it, I feel less fear than I did before.

Some have changed. I used to drive back and forth to Washington DC and some of the busiest surrounding areas. So, driving in some of the most congested and dangerous areas was nothing. Now the beltways and interstates aren’t that comfortable anymore now that I’m not competing in the daily death race back and forth to work.

As I was getting into my 50s, I used to fear getting older and sick again. That fear is faded because I guess we all eventually accept the inevitable. I just make the best of each day now.

I never feared speed before. I don’t think I fear it now; I just don’t have that desire anymore. I don’t think it’s out of fear, but I guess anything is possible.

You ever stop fearing for your children or grandchildren. I just spend as much time loving them and with them and that helps.

I used to fear people who I thought were super intelligent. Then I realized that most of them have big deficiencies in other areas.

The thing that scares me the most now are those ads for these meds with all the nasty side effects like death and things like that yet living. I hope I never have a need for them.

My main fear now is the messed-up world we are leaving our children with. I’m going to try to overcome that fear by working on changing it for the better.

A tall amusement park ride featuring a drop tower with seats for several people, topped with an American flag and surrounded by colorful banners.
Screams from above. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Build some by doing

What’s the best way to build self-confidence? – Asks the daily prompt.

This might not be the best advice. I’ve always had issues with self-confidence and still do. Just doing this blog each day is a bit scary to me.

But through the help of others and the assistance of age I’ve learned a few tricks.

  • Good mental health. You can’t do your best when you’re not feeling your best.
  • Watch, Learn, Practice
  • Even if you’re afraid, go ahead and do it anyway.
  • Study and work hard.
  • Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small.
  • Try not to worry about what others are doing.
  • At one time I thought things had to be perfect. Once I lost that anchor I started to do more.
  • Success can come in an instant. But most of the time it can take a lifetime. So don’t give up.

Take hold of the wheel and go.

Close-up view of a wooden ship's steering wheel on a boat, featuring a chrome center and polished finish.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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Subscribers

The daily prompt asks a good question today – How do you build loyal subscribers?

We used to have a saying in the newspaper business that “Content is King” meaning if you have good and interesting content, well displayed organized and illustrated, they will come and stay.

I hope something I present here connects with people maybe an image makes them smile or laugh. And I thank you for subscribing if you choose to.

It’s not that I don’t care about people looking at this. I’ve met some very nice and supportive people here and I love this environment more than other social media platforms. Not that I utilize others much. A little Facebook that I’d like to ditch because of ownership, but life is short and I’d still like to keep a few long-distance relationships I have going through that platform.

I’m puzzled by some of my subscribers, some are just doing it to get their site attention and they are selling something. Others in faraway places in the world puzzle me also.

I’m guessing a few may subscribe for nefarious reasons.

But back to the question, (my mind wanders often). Obviously the first change I’d make is to make navigating my blog easier. I’d switch off this out and no longer supported theme. I’d have sections for the work I’m presenting. I’d build more things to promote interaction. I’d build value into the site by providing expertise, experience, information, and views that are important to a target audience.

You find out what your subscribers want and provide that information to them. You can entertain them, maybe it’s finding other like-minded people to that bond to build something bigger and better. Like the challenges that people run.

I do this for fun. I do this to improve my skills. I do this to grow mentally and challenge myself. I do it in bits and pieces between a very busy life. None of this probably builds loyal subscribers. I do this because of my daily publishing background has somehow ingrained in me to publish daily on my own.

One day I’ll get my act together and make this something that will have some significant subscribers because I hope to have much better content. And Content is King.

But it won’t matter a bit to me if that doesn’t happen either as long as keep having fun at it. Thankfully subscribers aren’t what drives this effort. Not that I don’t appreciate them, the comments and likes makes me think someone enjoyed my somersaults.

A person performs a handstand on the beach at sunset, while another individual photographs them. The sun sets over the ocean, casting golden reflections on the water.
Kicking it to sunrise. Photo by Mike Hartley


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wrong proverbs

The daily prompt asks – Share a proverb you think is completely wrong and make your case.

Blood is thicker than water. – That can be true with some family members but maybe not all. I’ve seen and been part of fractured families. I’ve had friends closer to me than family.

Don’t cross that bridge till you come to it. – Wrong, planning is important. If you don’t think ahead, you might not consider the options you have when you get to that bridge.

Every cloud has a silver lining – While a lot of them might, not everyone does. Just like storms, some roll in right behind one another with bad news.

Fall seven times, stand up eight. – I’m all for perseverance but see a doctor if you’re falling that much.

A view of a bridge spanning over a body of water, with multiple bridge structures visible under a clear blue sky.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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Mates

Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not? – Asks the daily prompt.

Soulmates is a term I haven’t used a lot, but I feel like I’ve had several. So yes, I believe in them.

That connection that is stronger than most. The feeling that they know you and you know them on a deeper level.

Lots of marriages have found their soulmates and their love for each other is boundless and unconditional. Soulmates look into your eyes and you into theirs.

Soulmates don’t lose connection because they are naturally drawn together. You understand them easily. You can understand their pain and empathize with them. You say good things about each other and support each other. In ways that make you both better.

You’re in sync with each other, you listen better and interact with enthusiasm.

The other day I remembered an old childhood friend. We were soulmates. I’ve been married to my soulmate for decades. And luckily a few more are soulmates that I’ve had for decades.

Soulmates can rescue and save you at times in life. And you for them.

Why do I believe in them. I’ve experienced it.

Sometimes soulmates never speak a word but communicate more than most people.

A woman in a blue shirt and black shorts sits on a step, holding paws with a golden retriever beside her. They are in a garden-like setting with greenery in the background.
Getting by with a little help from my friends. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Let’s Do It

What’s a moment in your life that felt like it was straight out of a movie? – Asks the daily prompt.

We were nearing the end of a wild vacation trip that ended in Daytona Beach Florida. We were debating whether to stay another day or two. That morning we were speaking with some friends back home and they told us about a party that evening. We said we’d be back the next day or the day after that.

But after having breakfast we joked about showing up and surprising them. We continued to joke about it but let some time lapse and then looked at each other and said “Let’s Do It.” That became our moto because the movie Animal House had just been released and we saw it on the 2nd day of a 9-day trip.

That drive was like a Smokey and the Bandit or Cannonball run movie.

We had my nice old Camaro and broke a few speed limits, we’ll all of them on the way back in record time and showed up and surprised the crew. We took turns driving, each tank of gas, which that V8 ate like candy.

One of those stupid things you do as a youth. It was the most fun I’ve ever had driving though. And one of the best vacations ever outside of family ones.

I don’t have a good shot of my old favorite, but it looked like this but in maroon color.

Classic orange muscle car driving on a street with buildings and greenery in the background.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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Walk this way

The daily prompt asks me to – Go on a walk today and share a photo of something that catches your eye.

I had already planned on going for a walk today. Later this morning in fact and yes, I would have my cameras with me as normal. That is what I do now in retirement. I take pictures when I get the opportunity. I write, draw, paint, and carve also.

The problem in fulfilling this request is that I usually do the daily prompt between 2 and 5am. Not the ideal walking time on a cool first morning in June. Kind of dark also.

So, I’ll share a photo I took on a walk recently. And as always, my intent is as the sign says below. Framing Life’s Best Views is my mission. Along with some levity.

A view of blue storage containers behind a fence, with a yellow sign reading 'Framing Life's Best Views' in the background under a clear blue sky.
Walking in Annapolis MD. Photo by Mike Hartley


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2 Books

What’s the first book you ever finished and still remember to this day. – Asks the daily prompt.

That is a long time ago to remember the first book I ever read. I still have a few old books on my shelf that may have been the first I remember. The first is Operation Deep Freeze. From my dad that is signed by the author Rear Admiral George J. Dufek who he served under. Dad went on operation Deep Freeze I & II.

It’s also signed by several of the captains of the ships on those voyages. Those go over a few pages, so I just shot the author’s signature.

The other book is American Sports Hero’s by Fred Katz.

Cover of the book 'Operation Deepfreeze' by Rear Admiral George J. Dufek, detailing the story of a polar expedition, featuring a naval insignia and images of ships in a polar landscape.
A handwritten note that reads 'To James Hartley With Sincere regards George Duffle' on a blank page.


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AdVice

What’s the most profound piece of advice you’ve been given? Did you take it? – Interesting questions from the daily prompt.

A wise person once said to me at work. “Mike, you know this area in and out and you love it. You’re an excellent teacher and skilled but I need you to let go of it and be involved in new things that keep us growing.

Yes, I took it and it helped me take some more risks in the future that worked out well.

So, my advice to you is to go for it.

A traffic signal displaying a green light, with colorful flags, including an American flag, hanging from a building. Street signs for Main St. and Maryland Ave. are visible.
Its green and the town is trying to get going.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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24 hours

The daily prompt asks – If you had an unlimited budget for 24 hours, what would you do?

I’m cranky and don’t like questions like this. Spending time in fantasy land instead of doing something productive is counterproductive to me.

Thinking like this fuel’s addictions like gambling. That goal of money and greed isn’t good. But it seems that is the focus of so many of us.

Even if you were thinking of doing good for 24 hours that is an enormous task. And it’s too much responsibility for me to even map out in post this morning. Plus, my grandchildren will be here within the hour, and I have to turn into Mr. Entertainment.

Me, I’m going to stay and spend within my income budget and try to make the world a better place and enjoy the people around me today.

A vintage pocket watch is partially buried in shredded paper money, displayed under a glass dome on a wooden base.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A vintage pocket watch encased under a glass dome, surrounded by shredded currency, symbolizing the concept of time and value.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A vintage pocket watch displayed under a glass dome, surrounded by a mound of shredded paper.
Photo by Mike Hartley
A vintage pocket watch displayed under a glass dome, surrounded by a circular arrangement of shredded paper resembling currency.
Photo by Mike Hartley


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Shows last

What’s a show that had the perfect series finale? – Asks the daily prompt.

I was always a big fan of the show M*A*S*H and thought that final was good. There were two others that I also liked. The Newhart show and Cheers had good finales.

Of course, Derek Jeter last game at Yankee Stadium was also great with a walk-off hit to win the game in the 9th.

Five baseball umpires gathered on the field near home plate discussing a play, with a player visible in the background.
It’s not over till we say it’s over. Photo by Mike Hartley


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Questioning reality

The daily prompt asks – What’s a moment that made you question reality?

That’s easy 2016-2020 and 2024-present. Sorry, everything has seemed off during this time.

When walking down the beach about a decade ago I saw my duplicate. That was weird. I mean it was exact. Age, build, coloring, beard, height and hair.

Watching Jeff Bezos destroy The Washington Post.

A red and brown striped snake resting on a bed of small rocks.
I’ve seen several types of snakes in my yard but never one colored like this. Photo by Mike Hartley